Hi everyone. My family and husband's family culture is on the opposite ends of the scale. His entire family is really loud and crude whereas my family is completely against exposing a baby towards such environments.his Mom comes over every week and speaks really loudly and crudely with the notion that baby should get used to her loud voice.my baby is barely 2 months old and every time his family comes over , my baby would be really cranky at night. I've tried to hint to my Husband about his family by telling him that we have to expose baby girl to the right environment and shower her with love. I don't know how should I approach this situation? I don't wish to come across as rude but I do wish to get the message across clearly.

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I feel you. My in law's family is also very loud as my fil is partially deaf so he talked v loud as though he is scolding someone. The TV volume can be so loud that the neighbour came over to feedback. I had the same problem last time and it happened when they came over more often when my baby was 3 mths. Baby was startled at the loud voices and cried non stop. They said to let her get used to the loud noise and to familiar her to their voices too. Things didn't go right as my gal would get startled and cry even at night. I spoke to my husband and he noticed the trend. It was then, that my hub spoke to his beloved parents and how difficult we had, to handle baby at night. In law began to mellow down and tried to talk softer. Things got better and we were thankful that our in law's didn't overreact. Communication is very important. Try talking and letting them help you.

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I agree with Vanessa. Have a chat with your husband about this. Find out what is his take to decide how best to tackle this. His family would be part of your daughter's life and it may be difficult to get them to change. Some compromising will be needed I suppose but it is best for you and your husband to discuss this first, and then having him talk to his family about it. For now, perhaps you can excuse yourself and baby into a separate room when they come over so that baby can get some rest. I reckon she is still sleeping most of the time since she is still young. Hang in there..

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U definitely have to start speaking with your hubby 1st and ensure that he agrees with u before he speaking to his family. Should you tell the family, it will definitely be rude. Let him do the talking.