how to co-parents?

did any of yall actually manage to successfully co parent? we’re not married , not really speaking… used to be on terrible terms but now slowly speaking. I send their family pictures now and then. I grew up without a dad & I really don’t want my kid to go through the same thing. But baby daddy is not really asking about the baby. he met baby once and that’s it. As much as I love spending time with Baby I want him to spend some time with his father too. Want to suggest for him to come take baby on weekends but I don’t really know how to bring it up. Actually I don’t even know anymore does this man even wants to be in my baby life:,) what would you do if you were me?

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If someone doesn’t make an effort, regardless how you try, it’s useless. If he really cares for the baby, he would have taken the initiative to ask you instead. If you have to help him to spend time with baby, pretty sure even if he agrees to take baby on weekends, the task falls on someone else while he goes out and enjoy. At this point, I would focus on baby instead. Don’t need to send anymore updates to their family, as mentioned above, if they have the heart they will ask you for it. I grew up without a present father (my father is alive btw) but I would rather have an absent father than a father who is present but doesn’t care about me but just there for the sake of being there. Of course, this is just my own POV, decide what’s best for you and baby and whether it’s worth it. All the best! 💪🏻

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2mo ago

Right, because some man isn’t ready for family but couldn’t control their little brothers. Made the mistake and expect the lady to shoulder everything. They will only change until they found someone they really love. Oh no… I’m not sure about the Muslim cultural but is it you guys have to get his blessing/signature or something? There is no way you guys can like bypass him? :/

I wouldn’t wanna spend my effort on someone who isn’t keen. Who knows what is he going to do or how is he going to treat my baby. Maybe I will start by inviting him over on weekend to bond with baby. I guess if I were you, I will set things straight, eg it’s just co parenting, and your ideal that your baby will bond with his father and nothing else. Maybe he’s worried that you have some other agenda or maybe he’s already seeing someone else.

TapFluencer

if he is interested, that would b best but if he isnt, it isnt on you

TapFluencer

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