If someone doesn’t make an effort, regardless how you try, it’s useless. If he really cares for the baby, he would have taken the initiative to ask you instead. If you have to help him to spend time with baby, pretty sure even if he agrees to take baby on weekends, the task falls on someone else while he goes out and enjoy. At this point, I would focus on baby instead. Don’t need to send anymore updates to their family, as mentioned above, if they have the heart they will ask you for it. I grew up without a present father (my father is alive btw) but I would rather have an absent father than a father who is present but doesn’t care about me but just there for the sake of being there. Of course, this is just my own POV, decide what’s best for you and baby and whether it’s worth it. All the best! 💪🏻
I wouldn’t wanna spend my effort on someone who isn’t keen. Who knows what is he going to do or how is he going to treat my baby. Maybe I will start by inviting him over on weekend to bond with baby. I guess if I were you, I will set things straight, eg it’s just co parenting, and your ideal that your baby will bond with his father and nothing else. Maybe he’s worried that you have some other agenda or maybe he’s already seeing someone else.
if he is interested, that would b best but if he isnt, it isnt on you
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