not on good term with father. Doesnt want to let him know Im pregnant cause dont want to see him.

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Thoughts/rants:Due to some family issues/problems, Im dont really like my father.He calls and msg me sometimes but i dont reply unless necessary. I really dont wish to see him.. He doesnt knows im pregnant, i have also not told any of my cousins/relatives, i didnt post anything online either if not the news will somehow spread it to his ears. If he knows, he will visit me. After getting married early this year, i have shifted to my husband place and he doesnt know our exact address. Thats also the last time i saw him. (My mom is not around anymore. Passed away when i was young. ) Sometimes i feel so tiring, like hiding something and cant live how i want to.But i feel irritated to see him, received his text or call. I really dunwan to feel this way but i just cant help it. Maybe i am unfilial but i feel he didnt exacty uphold his duty well as a father too. I dont know if what im doing is right or wrong. And what to do? Tell him im pregnant later or after i give birth or...... Completely cut ties with him. Haha. Sigh. #firstbaby #pregnancy #familyproblemI really dk where or who to talk to or ask. So..  Using this platform to release my stress abit.

Mummy J · Accepted Answer

family ties will never be cut off. if your dad not concern about you he won't call and text you. everyone make mistake, no point putting a stress on yourself like that. give that person a chance you are also giving yourself a chance. no matter what he's still your father, without him there won't be you too. you will be mother soon, how will you feel if you're treated like that?

Cherlyn · Answer

Hi dear, thank you for sharing. From what you’ve said, your father is trying to reach out to you. Perhaps this is his way of showing he cares about you. If you don’t like hearing from him now, it might be that you find that it’s too late for him to show concern now, when he didn’t do that for you when you were young and needed him. I sense some hurt and deep wounds, but from your sharing, you also seem conflicted. There are some people who would find it easy to shut their fathers out forever, but it doesn’t seem to be the case for you. So I guess the question is, can you forgive him? Are you okay with giving him a chance to be a part of your life now? And your baby’s life too... Of course, this is your baby and pregnancy. It’s up to you and your husband who and when you want to tell about your pregnancy. But I hope you’ll make a decision that brings you peace and love, and one that leaves you with no regrets. Congratulations on your baby! 🎉 I may not know you personally but I’m happy for you!

not on good term with father. Doesn't want to let him know I'm pregnant cause dont want to see him.