Dear mommiies & daddies, a question about 《SEX》In marriage. How important does 《SEX》play a part in a marriage? Can both stay together without《SEX》? I've been undergoing 《SEXLESS》marriage almost 6mths. Even i initial the first step my husband will give lots of excuses or reasons to back up the 《SEXLESS》with me. Even i try to talk to him, he'll tell me no or nothing else. I'm really getting tired & fed up in such relationship. Simply don't feel as a couple. Last week, we ever try to move on who know everything back to NONE!!! I feel hurt feel neglect. And that day i meet my a guy friend of mine. He try to start handky panky with me. Instead of stopping him i NEVER. I know i should'nt do that but i really feel good. And the other way HATE whenever i see or think of my husband at home. Always say tired don't even involve handle ours child or the family yet always say tired. Btw, he working 5days job with office hours. This is simply not acceptable for a 《SEXLESS》relationship. I told my friend about it, they say to me he might have a affair so "tired" to perform. Really tired of trying or keep giving him chances to hurt or neglect me.

After reading all the comments, before you end up like the 2nd anonymous, best to talk to him, and ask him again why. ( i mean you don't want to waste 2-3 years and end up divorce right) Maybe hint him (know it's not good to say divorce but) tell him, you can't continue like this if continue like this, than let's divorce. If he hold u back, he will communicate with you, if he don't than something really must be fishy already. It's not good for you to be the reason to get divorce because you got hanky panky with other guy right. For me, if i really want hanky panky with other guys, i will wait till I divorce with him instead, at least i won't let people say i'm the one in wrong and give ppl a chance to shame me unnecessary . (I mean since ur husband already cfm chop [kind of cfm chop] don't want do with u once already right. Than if he continue having sexless life with u, even though he had no affair, will u still want to be with him?)

Honestly, I think it might really be because he might have a medical condition. Or that he is stressed and is not able to perform as well as he wish he could. My hubby is like that too. But I know he loves me a lot through other ways. He is sorry he can't perform like before as he's really tired from work and since he knows he can't do as well, he might as well not do it at all lest I feel even more disappointed if it's halfway. Yes, sexless might seem unacceptable to you but if he genuinely cannot perform, do you give up on him? Try to seek help together with him. As a wife, do not let him handle this on his own and treat it like his own problem. You are with him now so be with him on this and help him gain back his confidence. Exercise with him and build up his stamina. Do not stress him out or be upset and angry when he can't do it because it'll only cause him to sink deeper into his own abyss.

U would need to sit down and have a talk with your husband. tell him truthfully how u feel. ask him to admit if there is third party and handle it like an adult . Im not sure about sexless marriage, but i heard my friend saying that she had been leading a sexless marriage.Her husband just couldnt make it anymore. She had an affair outside , her husband sort of know about it and kept quiet too . She got pregnant , in the end the other guy ditch her. now she just continue her sexless life with her husband . her husband supports her in all way and even got her fatter n fatter so that the third party thing wont happen again . Im just saying . Guy wont lead a sexless life for no reason . its either a third party involvement or a health issue

Communicate with your Husband. Perhaps he has his own reason for not wanting the Sex. Talk to him and try to get him to tell you the reason. There's no point getting upset for now as it will only make thing worst. If he doesn't want to share with you, perhaps you can get some help from friends or family who he can talk to? Juz keep on trying! A marriage will need both party to work hard to keep it going.

Try to communicate with him. I had sexless life for almost 2 years. I initiated & he either reject or don't bother about it. I was living in a low self esteem & sad life, but I endured for the sake of the child. 6 months ago, he initiated a divorce & I think it's due to 3rd party. We are going through the divorce proceedings now.

He could have a medical condition. With my ex, we had a sexless marriage, and it was because he had been taking a medication for hair loss which immediately killed his Sex drive. We divorced after tht, but it had nothing to do with the Sex part or affairs but more to do with personality fit issues.

Maybe both of you would need to try to go for counselling? I understand both of you might have different needs in life at different time of life but I think staying truthful and committed in a marriage is very important. Please work hard to keep the marriage going on!

Both of you should sit down have a talk. If he does not want to talk about it, SMS him instead! Both of you need communication to work~ you may organize with his family for gathering to bring relationship closer. Jia you mummy!

Talk to him about it . Tell him about how you feel , and ask him why is he rejecting .