Empty marriage with no live and love

I have a prefect husband in people eye . Does house hold chore,took care of kids,handle all adminstration work . However that all he does . He will tell all his friend how bad I'm as a mom who can't cleanup after myself , and unable to trust me with my kids alone. I felt bad hearing that . He don't bother to share with me any thing about his life ,our conversation is about kids and admistative related .When I try to share a bit more , he already feel bored and irritated .If I ask about how his day. He always say OK . When I ask more he will walk away .If I message him he don't bother to reply unless is nessary. He doesn't need me at all aside for my mother duty . My income to sustain the household expenses . Me as a person to show he is a gd hub and he have a perfect family .I m so tired of pretending everything is fine. There's no love or affection . I don't know why i need to be in a marriage where the partner don't need me at all .I am staying in the marriage BC of kids . I don't know what to do . I tried ask him for Marriage counsel he said no . I went for counseling myself to try to improve the situation however it's really took 2 hand to clap . St this moment I really felt I don't need him in my life . I can hire a helper and PA to handle all the duty he is doing. I really wanted to change this . I don't think marriage can just hold by kids . Marriage is more that doing a households chores and administration work. Help I am desperate and I don't know what to do . Sorry for the long post . #advicepls #pleasehelp