I don't feel like having sex with my husband. Just don't feel attracted to him sexually anymore. I don't really know what to do. Is a sexless marriage ok? We have 3 kids.

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i don't think a sexless marriage can survive for too long. either one of you will crumble and look for it outside the marriage, or will want to move out. it is possible that you are going through hormonal changes, that can often do away with the sexual angle. also, if you are not attracted to him sexually, is there by chance anyone else you are attracted to? try and create situations where it is just the two of you, and instead of the sex, focus on physical intimacy, such as cuddling, holding hands, talking, kissing and so on. see how it goes.

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I think it's just exhaustion. Reckon you're still attracted to your husband, just too tired and perhaps no opportunity to be intimate with your husband. Try getting some help with the kids for one night and have a special date night with your husband. That's a good start to rekindle your intimacy and attraction.

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6y ago

All is well, if you and your husband want the same things. However, if either of you is interested in being sexually active, the reality is that the only choice you have, is who you have sex with, each other, or someone else.

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Well, sexless marriage is possible but the marriage will be very monotone. Find ways to get attracted. Yes with kids in tow, it doesn't get a little difficult and tiring at times. Find a short staycation away from the kids?

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