My dad and brother smokes and I would not let them carry or touch my baby unless they change their clothes or wash hands first. It’s not safe for babies to get into contact with third hand smoke. It’s not good for their skin / throat / lungs as their immune system is not developed yet. They might get upper respiratory infections more often if they inhale smoke or residue get into their mouth but it seems like your parents don’t really care about this. It’s also hard for them to change the habit of kissing your baby’s mittens. More so if they are taking care of your baby after you go back to work. May I suggest you look at infant care facilities or other childcare arrangement? Or consult a doctor / paediatrician on the risks? If they won’t listen to you, perhaps they will listen to a doctor?
My mom is a smoker herself and smoke infront of me. also infront of my nieces and nephews. These kids may turn out fine. I turn out fine. But why must we conform to her way of living? As a parent i want the best, be my daughter's advocator. Choosing the best decision for her. So yep, even when i know i need help, i will die die try my best. I will not settle for less. May seems arrogant but just want the best for my child.
Sigh. I understand how you feel because my in laws are pretty dominant. No matter what I tried to say, they will counter it by saying “ you guys were also raised in this manner” As for me, I showed them articles to “scare” them. They insisted on feeding water to newborn. 😪
U may want to tell your dad that the covid virus. Better wash hands before touch baby and smokers more prone to covid virus bcos immunity is lower
tbh its very difficult to convince them.. the only way you have is talk to him until he fully understands your point
Perhaps find a video and show him the effects of 2nd and 3rd hand smoke effects on the bb and family
If u can change the mittens or clothes more often it will be fine
Even there might be babies who grew up fine, dont risk it.
When I bring my baby to hawker , there is second hand smoke also.
But you are not in hawker 24/7 right...my parents are around my newborn almost 24/7.
Talk to your dad nicely to seek his understanding
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