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Tbh, pacifier before the age of 3mo is easy to stop especially when she is about 3mo. I introduced my LO to pacifier when she was about a month, but once she hits 2mo, she started to reject pacifier. Now she is over 3mo and no longer using pacifier. Additionally, the use of pacifier helps them to soothe them, as they seek for soothing through sucking reflex, and help to lower the risks of SIDS according to studies. However, the fact doesn't change that your MIL did not consult you before introducing pacifier though. But nonetheless, you can let your husband know so he can explain to his mom that the baby is yours, you have the rights to choose what to introduce to the baby. My mom did not introduce pacifier to the baby without my consent as she knows I was against it. But soothing my baby to sleep after the first month was taking a toll on me (she sleeps at 3am or 5am sometimes and wake up within 1 to 2 hours). Pacifier helps to set her sleeping routine better, she only used pacifier during the 2nd month to sleep at night.
Maybe that's her era of proven way to stop a baby from crying and calm her down. Anyway we introduced our boy to pacifier but he didn't like it and self weaned off it. Perhaps U might want to talk to her to ask if she uses it as a habit or to only use when the baby is really fussy and crying inconsolably
Remove the pacifier and tell her maybe he is still too young and you will introduce later on in the months (if u have any intention). For example my situation with MIL is she kept saying to use powder for baby but I told her the effects on baby. She kept repeating so i told my husband to tell her.
Is it your child cries a lot? If it helps to calm her down, then maybe just keep quiet and keep everyone's sanity. U can remove it when u see it's not necessary for yr LO to suck.
Tell her you don’t want your kid to be on pacifier, keep it away and also tell her to ask you first before introducing anything new next time. I would do that.
My mom introduced it to my daughter too. Without my permission, I kept quiet too cause I don’t wanna make it a big deal :( I understand you
You can try asking her why she did that e.g. benefits, etc. Then follow on by saying Oh, coz I didn’t want to coz of such and such... 😊
voice out nicely if you're uncomfortable, if not such situation may happen again
Just tell her upfront dat u dun wish to introduce the baby w the pacifier..
Tell your mil nicely why you dont wish to introduce pacifier to your baby.