What will you do if your husband want you to cut of contact with your sister as she keep talking negatively about your family which affect you? However, he himself refused to do anything about his parents who did even more nasty things to his family, wife and kids (their own grandchildren). He don't even dare to told them off when they are in wrong and keep asking me to turn deaf at all their wrongdoings. All his actions are causing stress at me which in turn make me turn hash towards my children. After yelling, screaming and even beating my children, it make me feel so bad. I have tried marring counselling, face to face talk to my parents-in-law (they agreed to stop involving in our family matter but continue to do it when my husband is not around), stop meeting often to avoid negative build-up from them (but they call my husband every another day to inform him that they hurt their hands, legs, or backside. They are fine when we go down). I am really running out of idea and thinking if we should go separate way to avoid all the negatives.

Similar situation but my hubby side his family side and take revenge and not talking to my family. I am focusing on my children now and I treat him as transparent. I don't talk to him when I am Mad. I never push my anger to my kids. I used to care a lot on my Mother and Father in law feeling. I very care how my Husband treat me and I circle around the circle. They used my kids as threatening weapon against me. After taking consultation from counsellor and friends, I change my focus. I solely focus on my children well being. I asked my mum to help me on my youngest Son. My elder children have better attention now and they are doing better and better. My Husband always depend on his mood. He will push all blames to me or don't care the kids. I don't think divorce will help me and I don't think the children will be happy if I divorce. and I feel to focus on kids is the most important. Morale and value to pass to them is far more important than in laws matter or your own sisters matter. Don't talk much with parents in law to keep it simple. Just all about kids. I don't bother him and he turn back to look for me sometime. He will feel bad one day and turn toward you. I hope this help you.