I am a terrible mother

I feel so sad because I love my son so much. But whenever I get upset when baby doesn’t sleep, or whatever reason, I just keep blurting everything that is in my mind out every time I’m in front of him and if I cannot really control it because if I tolerate I will explode even worst. I feel so bad that I’m throwing all my nonsense to my son but at the same time I’m just so tired. I love him so much I melt into a puddle of love whenever he looks at me and smile. How can I stop my nonsense in front of him. I couldn’t even tell my husband how I feel because he simply just doesn’t care. Hais

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Same.. especially when I’m angry with my husband. I tend to be rough with my daughter. I feel bad in that split second and immediately switch off the thought of venting it out on my precious baby. And I have to keep reminding myself diligently she’s just a baby, don’t understand anything at all. Don’t understand what’s yes or no. And definitely don’t understand what are the circumstances when she touches her bowl of porridge. Ahhhh I scold her for that yesterday, I felt so guilty. And she tried to reach for it again and I scolded her again and this time round she was shocked and looked at me 😳 then she cried for a minute which I had to calm her down. Poor thing lah.

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Don’t feel too upset talking to babies more I feel it’s good stimulate their listening skills. Moreover maybe to them it’s just sound stimulation cause I don’t remember what my mother used to scold me when I was a baby. Think I’ll just laugh it off as I don’t understand what she is saying also

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you are NOT a terrible mum cos you do feel bad and you love your son so much ya.. we are humans and we will definitely feel frustrated and have a need to let it out, don’t be too hard on yourself. find something you like, or something that will cheer you up, try to divert the frustrations.

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I felt that way once too, but suddenly I realized that a child is the priceless gift of god that I must lovingly care for and lovingly care for If I get tired of everything, I'll play with my son even though the housework is waiting to be done

actually you just need some metime, try meditation or yoga 20 mins a day or night to disperse that fatigue and stress.

Encounter this quite a few times. Sometimes baby keep whining, I will also get irritated and kinda scold him 🤣