i feel liek i don't love my son...

I felt the same when I gave birth to my first born. I took care of him just to make sure he is surviving but have no idea how to spend time with him alone. I was so happy to return to work on my first day and I dun even look back when I leave home. Through the years, as baby grow, I slowly learn to play and engage him, I think the love grow slowly too. So give yourself and your son some time. You are not alone in not falling in love with baby at first sight. As time pass, you will learn more about the little fellow and come to love him. I always thought I will never be a biased parent whereby I feel my child is the most precious. However, I think I am wrong in this. As much as I can see his flaws, I still love him fiercely. You will too one day!!!

Just curious, how old is your child? I sort of understand how you feel..i felt distant to my child when he was less than 1 month old as it was mostly my confinement nanny looking after him, so it didn't feel like he's my kid yet. But when the nanny left and i was left alone to take care of him, that's when I slowly built up the love for him. And when he started to smile and respond, that's when it hits harder. I hope you'll also get to feel this love for your child soon, it's a feeling unlike any other. Jiayou mama.

Could it be when you are younger you took care of alot of babies/toddlers younger sibilings? I used to take care of neighbour's toddler bcos my neighbour just happily ask me to bring the toddler down to the playground along with me, that time im still in primary school. I also feel that i do not like babies and will nv have one. But after having my baby im not like that anymore :)

I felt the same about my son in the beginning. I was tired and didn't have that strong maternal love people talk about and post about. I knew I would protect him no matter what, but didn't feel that mothers love everyone talked about. Now he is 2, trust me it will change. Now he is my everything. I think hormones had something to do with it.

how old is he? it's totally normal to sometimes feel disconnected for the first few months and then one day it just clicks. could also be a form of postpartum depression in which case you may want to talk to your doctor or husband. wait a month and see if it gets better

how long has this been? hope this is just a phase tt will soon pass 🙏💕

How postpartum are you now? It might be the baby blues.