breastfeed, formula feed, mixed

Be sensitive enough to moms when they are asking what brand of formula milk other moms prefer to use for their little ones, some would say BREASTMILK. But have you come to realize that they will not ask about formula milk if they have enough supply of breastmilk? Regardless if you breastfed your child or formula fed, as long as your child is healthy and well fed, no argument should be raised. Do not let first time moms feel that if they can't breastfed their child, they are already a failure. We have to support each other, NO MATTER WHAT.

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Louder for people at the back! Thank you so much for this. As a first time mom, I actually felt pressured to breast feed my baby even though I wasn't producing enough milk for my little angel. To the point where my significant other and I spent "thousands" of money investing on breast pumps because we thought these pumps just didn't suit my breasts to help me produce more milk. Lactation treats, moringa capsules (different brands), malunggay tea, fenugreek capsules. I took all of these in a desperate attempt to boost my milk supply, not only because I wanted to provide my baby better "food," but because I also felt "mom-shamed" for not being able to give my little angel something these "perfect moms" think was so easy to produce. If only they know how depressing it is for us to force our breasts on our little angels in hopes of giving them our "liquid gold" 😢

Magbasa pa
4y ago

Thank you for sharing this sis. We spent thousands for pumps and supplement but mahina talaga gatas ko. I was really planning to breastfeed but hindi talaga kaya. I shared this to some mommies I knew and I felt mom-shamed and alone. Tapos panahon pa ng covid. Buti na lang I have a supportive hubby na reminded me that what is important eh busog si baby. Fed is best.

Honestly speaking, there are moms out there na kahit kaya nilang magpadede ng breastmilk ay mas ginusto nila na magformula na lang. (di ko nilalahat) Dami ko kilala. They have given the chance na other mommies doesn't have. Pero pinagkait nila sa baby nila yung pinakamasustansyang pagkain. Me, kahit madalas or minsan naiisipan ko nang sumuko sa pagbebreastfeed pero lagi kong iniisip na kahit parang feeling nauubos na milk ko (which is feeling ko lang) gumagawa ako paraan para dumami ulit kasi sa totoo lang sobrang daming ways para magpabreastfeed. Nasa sa sarili lang natin yun kung gugustuhin. Proper education about breastfeeding and self-motivation is the key for successful breastfeeding.

Magbasa pa
4y ago

Ang say ko naman po dito is "my child, my rules". For sure po yung mga kakilala niyo ay may valid reason kung bakit sila na opt to use formula milk instead of breastmilk. Hindi naman lahat ay privileged to be stay at home moms. Yung iba kinakailangan magwork ng matindihan kasi single mom and wala na talagang time para magpump. Please don't be so harsh sa mga kakilala mo na nagopt to use formula without knowing the real reason why they did so. 😊

Super Mum

this is 200% accurate. 😭 be sensitive please. In my situation I have a plan to exclusively breastfeed my child since I was pregnant but I was not succesful. My daughter doesn't want to latch since she was already used to the feeding bottle because she stayed at NICU for 3 days. I had my breastmilk in 4th day but it wasn't enough for her. I dont want her to be hungry so Im giving her formula. Lucky are those who was able to breastfeed their child since the beginning and having enough milk, but please dont take it as advantage to make other mothers feel less of a mother.

Magbasa pa
5y ago

Parehas na parehas tayo mommy. Hindi mawalawala pagsisisi ko sa anak ko. Panganay pa naman. Bumili pa ako ng breastpump. Humihingi pa ako ng breastmilk sa friends ko pero ang pwede lang daw pala ay premature milk din daw. Nakapag latch sya sakin 2 weeks after ko sya ilabas. 31 weeks preterm kasi sya. Tapos nung sakin na kumukuha ng milk, need mag express, hindi ako nasisiyahan sa hand express w/c is mali ko din kaya natuyo agad milk ko kasi bawal pa pala mag breastpump pag wala pang 6 weeks. Kaya kahit milk ko ang iniinom nya, hindi sya nag ggain ng weight kaya napa oo na ako sa preterm formula milk. Pawisin anak ko at matinding maglaway dahil nga bottlefed. Sana naiintindihan ng marami what we've been through

Youre right! Almost 1 month after i gave birth. And i feel frustrated. Kasi lahat ng napapagtanungan ko bfeed and bmilk. And yes i understand and i would love too bfeed my child as long as i want. But i dont have enough. 😔 i feel down and depressed. And i think i failed as a ftm. 😔😔😔 and now i decided na mag mixed feed. Hindi sukatan ang bfeeding para maging masama or mabuti kang ina. Lets pray mga mamsh!

Magbasa pa

This is on point! Nakikita ko kasi usually sa comment section ng posts na naghahanap ng milk brand na nest kay baby, sabay sasabihin na ibreastfeed nalang si baby dahil less gastos. I get their point naman po you have to consider na baka kaya sila nagtatanong ng formula milk brands kasi hindi sila nabless ng masaganang breasts? Please be a bit more considerate sa pagcomment. 😊❤️

Magbasa pa

Tama po, ako nasabihan ako ng kalaki mong tao wala kng gatas. Alam mo yung pakiramdam na gustong gusto mo mgbreastfeed kaso ano magagawa mo kung wala tlga. Niraised ko sa mr ko yang usapin sa breatfeed pinagalitan nya ako, pano daw gagawin if wala tlga, wag ko daw sisihin sarili ko. Kesa magutom anak ko, kakapilit na mgbreastfeed nag formula fed ako sa awa ni God she's healthy.

Magbasa pa
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Tama 😭😭😭😭 Like me, stress na ako sa mga tao kakasabi ipa latch lang ng ipa latch. Ehh ayaw nga, kasi nasanay siguro sa NICU formula bottle fed for 7days. Nagpa pump naman ako pero 2oz lang ang pinakamarami ko , at take note sa isang araw hindi talaga every 2hrs. 😥😭 Pero at least meron pa din nadede si baby na breastmilk. Huhu.

Magbasa pa
4y ago

Iwas stress ka dapat momsh. Saka madalas pag nagpump ka konti lang talaga nalabas pero pag si baby nagsuck sa boobs mo, mas madami silang nakukuha kasi babies has skills na any pump cannot do.

i agree.sa 1st child ko, formula milk ako kasi wala tlga lumabas na milk saken.super payat ko that time.iba iba naman kasi ng situation.now, im currently pregnant with my 2nd child and im planning to breastfeed.iba iba po ng situation. kaya saludo ako s mga mommy na kahit formula o breastfeed, super inaalagaan ang mga anak nila.

Magbasa pa

Ako wala din mga sis,pinipilit ko talaga padedehin c baby pero wala talaga.umiiyak nko kaso bawal ako m stress kc cs ako.awang awa nko sa baby ko kya nkiusap nko sa pedia nya at sa nurse ung pwede bottle nlng sya kc super gutom nya na talaga bottle orin sya 3 days n kmi sa hospital pero try ko prin padedehin sya.

Magbasa pa
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Agreed! My milk supply is not enough too. At first, its really hard to accept coz people keep on telling that breastmilk is only the best for baby. What ever we give to our little one, it will never make us less of a mother. We all want the best for them, that includes to feed them well. ❤️