Hi all! Just a random rant. My husband hardly give me gifts, bring me to restaurant. To him, as long as he can be full, it does not matter if its cheap or expensive food. On my birthday, I was given a choice of either having flowers, a cake or a gift. I can only choose one of it. Now he said that he can’t stay any longer on his job, asked me not to spend his money. In fact, I hardly spend his money. I spend mostly using my own money. We argue mostly on money and he said I was not supportive to his decision. He said he got stress whenever I asked for a restaurant meal on valentine day or my birthday and a gift. I was just feeling myself so pathetic that not even my husband is appreciate what I did for him and still being so calculative to me. It made me felt that marrying him is a mistake.

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Hugs guess you must be disappointed from hubby's point of view in spending money. Unfortunately there are such people who is so protective of their money in obvious ways that hurts the relationship. You have to protect yourself by being less reliant on him financially since he is so reserved. The more he going to lose his job, the more it is important to understand that spouses are supposed to help each other during crisis.

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7y ago

I am the commenter. Why would this be the worst reply. I am replying based on what topic starter has written, saying that all along her hubby does not even splurge on her. If all along he has been nice, of course it's good to be understanding when times are bad financially. But instead he asked her not to spend his money when the wife rarely spends his money the first place. The husband's concerns are valid but not necessary.

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Home Random Talk random rant husband hardly give gifts bring restaurant him long full does not matter if cheap expensive food birthday i was given choice either having flowers cake gift i only choose now said that t stay longer job asked not spend money in fact i hardly spend money i spend mostly using own money argue mostly money said i was not supportive decision said got stress whenever i asked restaurant meal valentine day birthday gift