Hi.. thank you for sharing. I think as a mother, it’s very natural to want to have the best for your child, and to you, that’s a complete family with a father and mother. At the same time, would you consider the following? 1. Having a biological father physically present but not loving the child or the wife may be even worse than not having the person there? 2. Your child’s dad not ignoring you doesn’t equate to him wanting to be together with you, and he may actually end up hurting you even more by not ignoring your messages and sending hurtful replies. 3. I also agree with you that he should continue to pay money to raise your child. That’s the least he could do since he also brought this child into the world. 4. I really feel for you, that you don’t have a loving husband-wife relationship at this moment.. but I would like you to know that you are enough for your little one. You’re his hero, his mama, and his first love. I hope that you’ll be able to focus on loving him, because he’s more deserving of your love than a man that doesn’t want you. 5. As to whether this relationship is salvageable, well.. it takes 2 hands to clap. In order for someone to mediate, both of you need to show up for the counselling sessions, etc. If he’s moved on and isn’t interested in being your family, then really, you’re the only one getting hurt over and over again. Losing a relationship is really hard.. I hope you don’t let it interfere with the other aspects of your life and damage the other relationships in your life, because those are the things that are worth living for! You raised your son for 14 months? That is amazing stuff! What a wonderful woman you are! So please... don’t do hurtful things like flaming the other woman or trying to sabotage their relationship. You’re worth more than that, and maybe one day your son’s dad will see that, or maybe someone else will see your worth and love you for who you are. For now, I hope you’ll find love and joy in being with your son... that you’ll also enjoy your work, make good friends and surround yourself with positivity. Use the money that the dad gives to give your son the best, and show the dad that you’re a classy woman and awesome mum. Take care, dear...
Dear, give your self a chance to find new partner. I've been to so much than your situation before. Got preg twice, being in abusive relationship, become singleMom without my children's father support.. Then, I met my husband last year, marry me and accepted me and my kids without any judgement.. Now, I'm currently preg with our baby and all the painful past was slowly fainting away.. Do remember, you and your child deserves more. I will pray for your hapiness and strength to move on, for the sake of your child and your ownself as well..💐🙏❤️
Hi there, by reading your entry, it seems clearly that you really love him and I think its hard for u to move on ...I can somehow relate your feelings now. But, its not worth that you are trying so hard over here, while he is enjoying with his lover on the other end. You have your child and your toddler needs u more than u knew it. I believe u deserve someone better.
He needs to pay the alimony that’s the very least he can do for the child. What’s with his intention of dropping the alimony, it seems to me that he’s trying to escape responsibility and have more money for his new lover. You deserve better and there may be a right one coming to give you and your child a complete life. Stay positive!
I have seen people whom have moved on happier with new partners. I think you owe that to yourself if you haven’t tried that. I know it seems easy to say but no harm trying, right? If I were you I won’t stop the alimony. Only if you remarry then he’s obliged to stop in the courts of law, correct me if I’m wrong.
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I do understand you. You better to speak with a counselor