JTR.. Lo is 3 weeks 3 days today. During my period of confinement, mil have been taking care of lo during the day till 10pm then lo comes in to the room with me. Lately he have been very cranky in the night. Sometimes, i felt is it that im making him uncomfortable or something else. As every night when he's with me, he would struggle and scream his lungs out despite already attended his needs. Today's episode totally tear me apart when i see him cry. Is it because i have less time to bond with my lo therefore he "dislikes" me? While with my mil or anyone else in the family he's totally ok. Totally feel like a failure mom. Because he cried so badly, mil took him away to sleep with him tonight. I cannot help but cry my eyes out when i see him sleeping so soundly with my mil in the living room. (Cus my fil snores very loudly, therefore sleeps in the living room) Feels so miserable.

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Hey, don't be too hard on urself. Baby is likely to be in a growth spurt phase so can be difficult to handle and ace ur mil has been looking after, baby may prefer someone more familiar which is totally normal and alright because - hey, confinement is for the mummy to be totally as rested as possible. Most babies tend to be more active and easily hungry and cranky at night during the first 1-2 months (as their day and night perception is not fully developed - hence more fussy at night too) plus the possible growth spurt phase too. Don't be too hard on urself. Baby has no preference one. If have preference, it's definitely the one with the boobs and the familiar heartbeat --- which is YOU!! Relax. Don't demand too much of yourself and how things should be - it's just the beginning and u have a lot lot lot more time with him soon... For now, rest and recover

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You are not a bad mom! I can't emphasize that enough. There could be multiple reasons why baby is crying. At 3 months old usually it's colic. Babies also like familarity. So if mil is the main caregiver it's natural for baby to look to her. Not because baby doesn't love you alright. Hugs

Hey mommy, chill out. Don't be so sad okay. Baby is still small. I'm sure you are doing the best you can to care for baby and be with baby. No mom is a bad mom. We all do our best to feed and fend for our family. You are a great mom without a doubt. Cheer up.

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don't say that. LO cries for a reason. could he be hungry? Cold? Colic? slowly filter out the real reason and find out. don't feel bad about LO not bonding with you. they know who is their real mother

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