My baby doesn’t want me

My baby sleeps a lot during the day. He doesn’t cry that much. But during night time he cries A lot. Most days I’m able to let him sleep without any cries throughout the night. But today he didn’t stop screaming even when I try to comfort him. My mother in law criticises me a lot and so does her daughter. They’ll tell me obvious things and makes me feel I’m not good enough or I don’t know my baby well. She takes him away and tries to prove her point when my baby doesn’t cry. And makes me feel like I don’t know what I’m doing. I don’t sleep at night just so I can make sure he’s absolutely comfortable and don’t need to scream. But at the end of the day this happens. I’m starting to believe my baby doesn’t like me and doesn’t want me. And their words aren’t helping me mentally and I feel broken. it’s just one day out of a week he gets cranky and they’ll make me feel useless as a mother and my baby doesn’t cry when he’s with her. Maybe my baby really doesn’t want me.

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Hello mummy. First of all. You are the first point of nourishment and love. Without you, your baby wouldn't even survive. Second of all, oh my god. I want to just hug you. Because I'm a strong person but this happened to me also. And I just utterly broke down. It didn't help that my hubby and I were not on good terms as well. Thirdly, whenever your baby does that... Just take a deep breath. Sometimes if your baby is already fed, diaper changed, burped... All they need is some downtime. Try singing a lullabye. Rocking them slightly. If you can't, go for a joyride. I don't know why but Sometimes the vibration of the car makes baby calm down. And being away from all these people will be an ease of mind. Good luck, girl! 💗

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🤔most new mothers have same problem with their newborn. Any expat here to explain why??why only target mother? Last time my cl make me feel very useless too. She humiliated me in front of my husband and throw my things away. I took the baby away from her and take charge of him on my own. 老虎不发威人家以为是病猫. Doesn't matter baby likes me or not, I'm still his mother. Then i slowly found out reasons why my baby cried non stop and solved it. All these experiences are from trial and error. Don't get broken down by petty people. No one is perfect. Chouhan is right, most baby get very cranky because of colic. Ganbatte...

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Hey dear, first of all, you know your baby the best and nobody can do better than a mother. So do not think this way at all. A mother knows what best for the baby. Regarding crying in a night, it can be for various reason, may be baby is hungry, may be he peed, or this can be boz of colic, or wet diapers or clothes or may be it's hot. Check of these signs and when it's always better to have a sleep cycle. Dim the lights when the baby is sleeping, you can also play a quite song in the background. Do not worry, it's very common. You are the best mother for your baby. Congratulations mummy :)

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It's normal sis, maybe due to colic or air that cannot pass through baby tummy, try to massage ur baby or cuddle more and assure that mummy will be there for him, my son too sometimes wake up screaming and crying, I just console him that mummy will not leave and carry cuddle n kiss him, there are days when my baby also didn't feel like cuddling with me or crying when I carry him, but when pass too my husband he will stop crying, just try to relax and don't get it through u what they say

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Pls dun put yourself down. You are a great mummy. Just like some mummies have pointed out, could be because he is hungry, need to change diaper, wants you to cuddle him and give him a sense of security. And if it’s helpful, allow the baby to adjust between night and day.

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Stay strong, mummy! Dont let anyone think less of you as a mum, and dont think yourself less as a mum. Babies can get more cranky than usual when they are going through mental leap or growth spurt other than being hungry or needing a diaper change.

Please don’t say you feel useless. Always remember, a mother knows best! While advice is always appreciated if they are creating all these negative emotions maybe you should confront them and address this issue. Your baby loves you :)

Hi, It is common to face difficulties in getting used to the newborn in initial days. Please don't lose heart and be confident and things will get better soon :)

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its not true. baby has good and bad days. don't let them affect u. be strong

Cheer up , you are definitely the best for your LO