3 children, too much?

I was admitted yesterday because of contractions and I am already 3 cm dilated. Everything was okay until a senior doctor came and his first question was, "This is your third baby, really?" and he started throwing in more questions. "Where do you stay?" "What type of house?" "How many rooms?" "What are you working as?" and the last thing was, "I want you to think what you're going to do with your life after you gave birth to this third baby, please consider taking contraception." I was on contraception and I still got pregnant, he suggested a stronger one now. Am I being too sensitive over this issues because the moment he left, I cried. Everything he asked, there is nothing to do with his work. Too personal, no? There's a lot of nurses and other doctors standing next to him and they were looking at me while I was expected to give specific answers. My husband and I live in a 2 rooms rental flat for now because next year, we planned on purchasing a resale house. We've been saving up a lot of money. We chose to moved out from our parent's house after marriage to be independent and we want privacy as well. We really do start from scratch. We're in our 20's. We thought that 3 children is okay? The rest of our family members have more than 3 children and we didn't judge them.

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Felt really uncomfortable on your behalf . Why would a doctor even questioned that? Is he even going to help you raise your children ? If not, how dare he raise all these sensitive questions in the presence of others. That is just plain rude and disrespectful. Having how many children is your personal choice so long as you and your husband stay committed and be responsible to the kids. The opinions of the rest does not really matter. Even if you have an only child, there’s still people going to say that’s too little should have another child as a companion.🙄 What matters most is to keep yourself happy in order to raise happy kids. Lastly, I hope you won’t see this rude doctor again. If you did and he’s trying to be rude all over again, pls call him out and ask him to mind his own business.

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