EDITED: How careless I was during the start of my pregnancy

Hello. I just want to share how careless and irresponsible I was before I discovered that I am pregnant. And how the baby survived in my womb despite some bad decisions I had. First, I started this year filled with hope and aspirations as I resigned from my previous job last Dec. 31. In January, I decided to have a new look and spent about 8 hours in the hair salon to have my hair rebonded and dyed. In February, I joined a 2-day pilgrimage walk that covers about 20 kilometers. I walked for about 9 hours straight to hilly mountains during the first day. It was an amazing experience (if you didn't know that you are already carrying a baby fetus inside). Last March, I noticed that I have gained weight. I thought it was only because I ate too much and sleep all day because I still don't have work yet. I am also constipated so I took laxatives like Dulcolax and Biofit tea. Then, it was April, I already have a job that time. Because I was too concerned with my weight, I walked for about 30 minutes or maybe 5 kilometers every day from work and continued taking laxatives. You are probably thinking what about experiencing morning sickness, cravings and period? Actually, I missed my menstruation since Dec. and I only thought maybe because I am having irregular period. I also haven't experienced nausea, vomiting and I'm not sure with cravings because I eat a lot. Still in April, I decided to go to the doctor because my pelvis was really painful and I can feel slight pitik-pitik down there. I don't want to think that I am pregnant . I still have many things I want to accomplish in life. My boyfriend, who is a seafarer, was the one who wanted to start a family with me. I love him and I also wanted to. He's ready while I am not. Everytime when we make love, as much as possible we use condom. Sometimes, he didnt and opted to have withdrawal. And that I should trust him. Anyway, during the checkup with the OB. The doctor tried the doppler device and we heard a hearbeat sound. I was too shocked to react that time. I know this is a good news for my boyfriend but not so much to my family. As expected, my boyfriend, who is miles away from me, was very happy with the news. That was April and I was already 5 months pregnant. A lot of things have happened after I discovered I am carrying a baby inside. When everyone finally accepted the situation, we decided to tie a knot with my boyfriend last June. After our marriage, my now husband confessed to me that he intentionally impregnate me. He admitted that he planned it all along so he can have me in the end and also because of some stories that most seafarers have difficulties in getting a child because of the hot and humid temperature in their work environment. I was surprised with his honesty and I cannot get mad at him. I love him afterall and if I will have my own family, I want it with him. Now, I am on my 35-week pregnancy. I considered it as a miracle that my baby was able to survive despite all the poor decisions I've had during my first trimester. To mommies or soon to be moms out there who discovered their pregnancy a bit late, you still have time to correct your mistakes and do good for your unborn babies well-being. Honestly, I still feel guilty sometimes and regret what I did, but know that God is really good. I realized that if you cannot take care His blessing, then He will do it for you. I am still amazed up to now because the OB said the baby is healthy inside. I might have missed the precious moments during the first five months, but I am now feeling and enjoying my remaining weeks before I get to see my little one. ? I can't wait to see you our baby girl. ❤ Hope you'll forgive mommy.

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Same po tayo mamsh. Akala ko missed period lang sa 4 months kasi nagkaroon ako ng matinding acid reflux. Sign na pala yun na buntis ako, nagtake ako ng medicine tapos pinisil pisilpa tyan ko ng madiin ni Doc nun not knowing na im 3 months preggy that time . Sa school din lagi ako nakaheels kasi po tourism student ako and required talaga yun, sira pa elevator. Nakaheels ako ground floor to 8th floor minsan hanggang 10th. Nag inom pa kami nung may event kami sa school. Talon ako ng talon. Lakad ng lakad kahit malayo, pinipilit kahit sobrang pagod na. Sa 4 months ko september to nov. Eh puro kami practice ng sayaw, sobrang hataw. Buti di na ako sumama sa cheerdance nun kasi every year sumasama talaga ako, brutal pa naman every training namin. Lagi din akong bloated pag madami ako nakakain, nagtataka ako kasi di ko ma close yung butones ng pants or shorts ko kasi payat ako. Nagbubuhat ng sobrang bibigat na bagay tulad ng lamesa na kahot, upuan, etc. Nilagnat ako ng malala, sobrang ubo, sipon at kung anu ano pa. Tapos nung december mag 6 months na parang natanggap ko na, meron talagang baby sa tyan ko. Yung boyfriend ko matagal na akong pinag PPT, pero ayaw ko kasi nasa isip ko natatakot ako na ewan dahil gagraduate na kami dalawang sem nalang. Etong January 2020, nabago lahat. Natanggap ng pamilya ko at pamilya nya. Di palang namin alam kalagayan ni Baby kasi ang dami ko ngang ginawang di tama dahil di ko alam na may buhay na pala sa tyan ko. Yung tipong iyak ako ng iyak kada mag aaway kami ng boyfriend ko. Napaka emosyonal ko. Lagi akong puyat. Kaya nung natanggap ko na meron na ngang baby sa tyan ko, sobrang dasal ko na healthy at normal sya. Nung nagpa ultrasound ako, dasal ako ng dasal na sana talaga okay si baby. Hanggang sa pinarinig sakin ng OB yung heartbeat ni baby. Di ko mapigilang hndi mangiti, sobrang sarap sa feeling na marinigang heartbeat ni Baby lal o na nung sinabi ng OB ko na normal ang heartbeat niya. Tapos nung na ultrasound na ako, di ako marunong magtingin kaya nanunood nalang ako sa monitor. Sinabi na Baby Boy, tuwang tuwa ang Kuya ko. Tapos nung malinaw na pinakita sa monitor yung braso ng baby ko, grabe natuwa ako sobra pati ung mukha kamukha ng boyfriend ko hehe kahit medyo malabo. Tapos nung sinabi na normal si Baby, napa 'Thanks papa God.. sobrang thankyou!' ako sa isip ko. Grabe... Sa dami ng maling nagawa ko, si baby kumapit pa rin. God is so amazing, hindi nya kami pinabayaan. Imagine lahat ng nagawa kong hindi pag iingat nun na di ko alam meron na pala akong buhay na dinadala sa tyan ko. Thank You papa God, para sakin talaga si Baby Kyrie. Mag 30 weeks na ako etong Feb. At nag aaral pa rin ako. Gagraduate ako, in Jesus name para samin ni Baby. ❤️♥️🙏

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same story , may pcos ako pinag take ako ni doc ng lizelle pills para ma curr yung pcos ko , tsaka pinag diet din ako. last take ko ng pills august 2019, that month nagka dengue din ako 1 week ako naka confine, yung one week na yun, yun din yung last menstruation ko. The next month, September di na ko nagkaroon di ako nagtaka kasi iniisip ko baka dahil natigil yung pills ko, dumaan ang october november until december di ako nagkakaroon, di ko naisipan na buntis ako, di ko din nararamdam yung morning sickness, pero laging sumasakit ulo ko, akala ko dahil sa grado ng mata ko, until one day december 26 2019 inaaway ko husband ko, pati mga ka work nya, pag uwi nya galing work nakikiusap sya sa mommy ko na baka pwede ako kausapin, ang sabi ng mommy "baka buntis" that night, sinabihan ako ng husband ko na mag pt ako, nakabili ako ng pt december 28 2019 na, nakapag pt ako umaga ng dec 29, malabo yung isang line, di ako nag react muna kasi dati nung bago ako magamot sa pcos nag pt ako two lines din pero malabo yung isa. pinakita ko sa husband ko, sabi nya isa pa, the next day december 30, malinaw na malinaw na tlaga two lines, tuwang tuwa kmi mag asawa, di muna namin sinabi sa parents namin, nagpa check muna kmi. nung nakuha na namin ultrasound ang laki na pala ni baby , 15 weeks na sya nung pina Ultrasound ako.. sobrang saya sa feeling na ang dami ko pinag gagagawa nagpakulay ako buhok, nagpapa mani pedi ako, nag ride pa ko sa motor ng husband ko from marikina to nova, nova to marikina, nag pa xray pa ko twice, nag do pa kmi ni hubby. kaya sobrang pasalamat ko kay baby at malakas sya, thankful din ako kay Lord kasi di nya pinabayaan baby ko. sa ngayon 5months na ko, pinagdarasal ko na maging malusong , masiyahin at malakas si baby.

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I was careless too. Nov 8,9,10 dinatnan ako, then dinatnan ako ulit Nov 18,19,20. I thought it was normal. Nag travel ako nun, nagpaboracay ako to look for a job, Dec na nun. Nag pa xray pako, and nilagnat ako so nag take ako ng mga meds. Then lumipas ang december di pa din ako dinatnan, akala ko dahil sa dalawang beses ako dinatnan nun nov, hindi pala. I was carelesss that time kase umiinom at nagssmoke pako nun. Until pumasok sa isip ko PT kaya ako next week ? January 7 nag PT ako, nakainom pa ako the night before ako nag PT. Two lines, malabo isa. Sabi ko, ahh sa alak siguro. Pinakita ko din sa partner ko, sabi nya di pa yan. wala pa yan. Then january 9, nag PT ako ulet. Clear 2 lines na. Pumunta ako sa Clinic at nagpasama sa bestfriend ko. Serum test para accurate. Positive nga. 8 weeks nako nun. Today im 12 weeks na. Thank god safe naman baby ko. And I will take care of him/her pa, for the rest of my life.

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2y ago

Me, I stopped after a week na nalaman ko that I was pregnant. Natatakot kase ako e. After a week ko pa completely tinigil, kase hinahanap ko pdin. Pero, Good atleast you're trying to avoid naman. Just keep in mind that your present actions can affect the baby in the future. So just be careful and God bless 💕

totoo yan 😊 khit ako 2mos nkocnung nalaman ko .. lagi pko nakaangkas sa motor non as in araw araw kc messenger asawa ko sa laboratory. lagi akong sumasama pg restday. hatid sundo ako ng motor. tpos 1time ngaway kmi. knaladkad nya ung motor nya sa mga lubak, at tnatalon sa humps kc super ihing ihi nko nun inaway ko ayun gnawa nya. sabi ko sa inyo ung puson ko halos sumabog. 1month preggy na pla ko nun. lagi kmi ngaaway kc lagi akong naiinis, ngddrama, iyakin d ko tlaga alam na buntis ako. since messenger nga sya nkakarating kmi batangas, laguna, nakamotor mula umaga hnggng gabi nakaangkas ako tpos summer pa nun 😆 bukod pa yung mga pnagkakakain kong walang sustansya like softdrinks 1liter everyday, junkfoods, lahat ng maduming pagkain, gulat ako sa ultrasound ko ganda pa daw ng heartbit gnda ng position. sabi ko tndi ng batang to lakas kumapit 😆

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Same here sis. September last period ko, then october up to december wala pa rin akong mens. I thought at first delayed lang ako due to irregular period. My LIP told me many times na magPT na ko pero ako ang may ayaw kasi di pa ko ready sa magiging result. On that months, panay pa ko inom ng alak and beer, panay lakad ng matagal, palipas gutom madalas and naaksidente pa kami ni LIP sa automatic scooter nya which is puson ko pa yung sobrang tinamaan that time. But now, I'm 4 months pregnant and sobrang pinag-iingatan ko na. I felt guilty nung nalaman kong buntis pala ako, kung gaano ako naging pabaya those months. I thank so much God for saving my baby inside me. Thanks also my baby that you're so strong 😊 God knows how much I love you my baby😘

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Same. Hndi ako aware na preggy na ko, regular pa take ko ng Vit C kasi mahina immune system ko also nainom ako ng glutha na capsule. Kala ko normal lang yung missed period kasi sa call center ako nag tatrabaho so more puyat. Nilakad ko din mula dulo ng baclaran papuntang MOA nung walang masakyan. Nainom pa ko ng alak pag may occasion. Nagta-travel pa kami ni jowa sa malalayong lugar na natatagtag ako. Saka lang ako nag pa-check up nung mag 4 mos na kong hndi nagkakaron. Wala akong morning sickness or any indication na preggy bumbum ako aside sa missed period. After namin malaman ayun mga tests na and thank god ok naman si baby over all. Sa march ng katapusan lalabas na siya or first week ng april 😍😍

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Relate ako jan last year. 5months din nung naconfirm ko sa ob na preggy nga ako. Why? Nagpt ako ng maraming beses monthly pero negative talaga. Kahit faint line wala. Confused na nga ako nun baka may sakit na ako. And sa 20weeks na yun na hindi ko alam na buntis ako, yes i was using rejuv set, nagpableach ako twice at hair color thrice. Byahe dito byahe doon. Nakainom din ng alak and nagsmoking. Nung nalaman kong preggy, stop ko lahat. Sinunod ko lahat ng sinabi ng ob including lahat ng vitamins , ultrasound and lab tests. Now, turning 4 months na si baby boy ko. And sobrang healthy niya. You can see my profile to see his picture. Goodluck s mga mommies like me na nasa ganyang situation ngaun. God bless😇

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I was careless too. Hilig ko pa naman kumain ng dried ananas (pineapple) as a snack. Mahilig din ako sa sweets at sa softdrinks. Nagpa rebond pa ko ng buhok at nagpakulay. I also do HIIT workout, nagbubuhat ng mabigat sa gym and do Plyo. I just did PT nung delayed na period ko for 5 days saka ung sinasabi na ng gut feeling ko na preggy ako. Kabado ako kasi may history na ko ng miscarriage so ayun mejo worry ako na baka di na naman siya matuloy dahil sa dami ng nagawa ko namakakasama sakjn at sa baby ko. Thankfully, malakas ang heartbeat ng baby ko. Binigay na talaga siya ni Lord and I pray na magkaroon na ko ng anak. Mag 32 na ko and I don't think na magkaka anak pa ko after nito because of my myoma.

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2y ago

Patanggal mo sis pagkapanganak mo.

Same here moms nahawa ako sa anak ko nung my sakit sya..Dec 30 masama n pakiramdam ko. Then jan 3 nagkasakit anak ko tas gmuling n sya ako nmn nagkasskit. Nkainom ako ng 6 bioflu at 2 alaxan. Then niresetahan ako ng gamot para sa sipon for 7days.. Then January 28 naisipan ko mag pt kc ilang weeks n ako delay tas nagulat ako nag 2lines sya.. Then nagpatransv ako more than 8weeks n pla ako preggy. Nag worry agd ako sa baby ko. Kung nalaman ko lng agd sana di n ako uminom ng mga gamot n un. Kaya pla nagtataka ako bkit bigla ako nagkasakit kc in 15 years, non lng uli ako nilagnat. Kc normally ubo or sipon lng tas na wawala din agd kaya di tlga nainom ng kahit anong gamot.. Now im in 34 weeks..

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I feel you. Kaya lagi ako kinakabahan kung okay lang ba si baby. January nag iinom inom ako with workmates. Motor, lakad ng malayo, uwi ng madaling araw. February ganun pa rin ang routine pero nawala lang ang inom. Sobrang active ng sex life. Kain ng kung ano ano. Tapos may event kaming inaasikaso sa QC so super wala akong time sa sarili ko. March, ginanap yung event namin. Gising ng maaga. Buhat ng mabibigat. Nagbuhat pa ako ng sako non na 8kgs and 10kgs. Then bago mag end ang March, after my birthday, nag PT ako and positive. So nag pa check up, tvs, then I found out na lagpas 2 months na akong pregnant 😢 Sobrang careless ko. Hayss. Buti okay naman si baby. Di kami iniwan. 🙏

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