Feel disappointed

I just want to find a place to share my feeling.. My husband is so addicted to his mobile phone been watching tik tok or playing games every day & every hr. Usual day after work I will rush back to buy dinner, pump bm, fetch my lo from infant care then change his clothes & make him sleep. After that I need to wash all the bottles & container, take my shower then have my dinner. My husband is more busier so I understand I can settle all these before he come back home. Everyday he come back home will just sit down & start using his phone to watch tik tok/fb or play games. Even having dinner also he only looking at his phone. I know he is stress & tired after work need to relax himself so I don’t stop him. Sometime I do feel tired too having the need to feed my lo during midnight (sometime he will feed lo too), wake up earlier to pump milk before work..but all these is what a mum should do I won’t blame anyone. What I’m disappointed was even during weekend which I think that’s the time we can spend more time with our lo. But he is still looking at his phone more than looking at our lo. When lo is crying for milk he will just continue playing his game & ignore his crying. At that time I really feel like walking to him & throw his phone away. I know my work is less stressful than his & I don’t earn as much as him. But having bb is what he always want & even ask for 2nd one. But I don’t think we are suitable to have a 2nd one with this situation. I don’t know isit that i’m overreact or what..I’ve been keeping all this in my heart for a long time & just want to say out..

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My hub is pretty much the same, though he will move when kicked. I am not sure if it will work for you, but u can try asking him to do things specifically, ie. wash the bottles once baby’s done drinking or u are done pumping, while you are attending to baby. Maybe when he sees that you are busy at task when you asked him to help out, he will do the required chores. Don’t stay bottled up as it may lead to a worst explosion you are reach your max tolerance..

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2y ago

I totally agree - when I ask my husband to help with specific chores, he will help (sometimes happily, other times not so much), but if I don't ask, he will not do - He is not wired to be considerate, so I got to tell him specifically how he can help - before i use to tell him that im upset that he plays too many computer games - i saw no behavioural change, so then I told him specifically what needs to be done and i get some results