I was a SAHM for 8 years and because he was the source of household income, our finances became together, his money is your money, you guys are a team, you are not only entitled to an allowance, you should have access to the household money just as he is.
In another note, I understand being a SAHM, our focus in the husband and kids becomes magnified, because they are our only world, sometimes after a long day of work, the last thing they want to do is to get into a deep conversation and maybe confrontational one with the wife, and many a times it has happen to me that he shut me out. Going back to work will really help shift your attention and energy from him, and it'll help.
All that said, he is not justified for his actions, perhaps find a right time to tell him how you feel calmly and find a common grounds. Good luck!
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