I think divorce should really be the last option. It would be really tough to raise your kids yourself and work at the same time to support them. I feel you need to find a good time to tell him honestly how you feel (how under appreciated and 'used' you feel) and ask him if he really prefers you to go back to work to help support the family. If so, you should pre empt him that you expect him to help in managing the housework and children too since both of you will be working. And find a childcare that can take care of your kids. For me I was on no pay leave for 10 months before going back to work. While it was tough letting go of my kid and relinquishing the care of her to an infantcare and now childcare, some benefits I saw was her growing more independent and not clingy to me, and her mandarin is really decent for a less than 2 year old considering how we only speak English at home. Plus I get to go on dates with the husband sometimes on my non working days while she's in childcare and catch up with him. And we now have more money so it's not such a huge pressure on him. I try to make time with my child count when I'm not working. Draw up a list of pros and cons with your husband and make a joint decision on what's best for your family :)
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