I need to rant it out.... My husband and my family members is not getting along very well.. my family members is very straightforward type and they tend to hurt my husband feeling. Especially my elder sister and her boyfriend, my husband just can't stand them and my husband have been avoiding them but still sometimes after a family meeting ~ Eg. Maybe my sister like to talk sarcastic towards my husband and say he is fat and she will laugh it off. I know she is kidding but my husband don't feel that way. He feel hurtful and will tend hold back all the feeling only to express it to me. My sister boyfriend will go directly to my husband and compared everything about him. My husband told me he is a the edge already. He feel like talking back to him and let them taste their own words how hurtful it can be. I myself can't stand his sister too. As she tend to indirectly saying alot of thing in front of my husband and she will act like very good which I feel so fake la. But I always trying to be fake back to her. The problem is my husband is staying with my family. And he will have to tolerate alot of stuff. We been quarrel alot of time over family issues. He just ask me what if I am the one staying at his house and have to tolerate. He say he just don't want me to keep siding my own family everytime when he vent his feeling out. And I hate it everytime we quarrel he will shout and want to leave the house. I am in my third trimester now and we still quarrel like that. I am tired. I can't ask my husband to tolerate if it was me in his position I sure cannot handle but I can't ask my family members to change their way of talking. I am so stuck here. Sorry for the long post.

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I think straightforward is the best way to go. Just straight forward tell ur family members to shut the F up if they are pushing it caz it's not funny. I am straightforward kind too and I talk sarcastic too and I admit I need to be told to tone back sometimes. Tell ur husband to just express himself yar - this kind of always bottling up is not healthy and will only bottle to quarrel later Best practice is to MOVE OUT. Otherwise now so stress, when baby here, I am pretty sure u guys will be tempted to throw divorce papers Now property market not doing well.try to at least just rent a place and make do until ur own house is ready (I hope u have a house coming). Marriage is a joining of 2 families. If they can't help u guys stick together, they will help tear u guys apart when the going gets tough. Few are able to totally isolate and completely ignore their own family. Work on having good relationship w family members too. But the fastest solution for now is move out

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