1. How can your boys & you will be in a happier place? Please don't assume for your children.
2. If you wish to divorce, is your decision only! In fact if none of the parties are violent, divorce is mostly a selfish reason and not for your kids.
3. Given that is 17 years marriage, maybe you should ask what you wanna get out of the divorce?
4. Possessiveness means he love and treasure you. I think most woman envy you here.
5. Please seek counselling, I suspect both parties need to adjust their mind set and meet someowhere in the middle.
6. If you found someone else, then that is a different story.
7. Remember entering a marriage, one is expected to lose some freedom. Read more