I feel like I'm a bad father. My wife gave birth four months ago and I now dread coming home to a screaming baby and a tired wife. Other fathers keep telling me about how they instantly connected with their kid, but that didn't happen to me. We have some good days but they're few and far between. I don't know what to do :(

Dude its just normal being a first timer dad like you . I was like that before when we had our first child . Its just a matter of adjustments , just prolong your patience and avoid stress. Let your child be your inspiration to be happy in life not be the cause of your stress. Also show your wife your loving care when you see her tired do the other chores , you should be there strength and they want to see you as a strong dad . I know you can still cope with it soon just think positive everything will be okay :)