WHAT WOULD YOU FEEL?

I dunno how to start this. My husband's past relationship (just one) lasted for almost 10 years. His ex cheated on him, that was the reason why they broke up. Recently, i saw one of his convos with his friends on a Group chat about their breakup. He was telling his friends how they broke up. Then what really bothered me was, he sent them photos. Photos of all the evidences of his ex's cheating. Like conversations of his ex and the third party and photos of them together. He mentioned there that he kept it as a reminder. They talked and talked. He talked how broken he was before, how he moved on and so on. His friends told him how lucky he is now, that we're married. They're telling my husband that i am finally his "The one". He agreed. He said there that he is so happy now. I am happy about what he said there. But i really am bothered why does he still keep those screenshots of evidences. I don't know what else to feel. I told him before how insecure i am about how long their relationship was. Who wouldn't? Everyone, as in everyone thought that the both of them would get married. He just went MIA on his friends when the brokeup happened then when he came back years after, i am the one he married. What do you think? I know i shouldn't be worried 'coz he's not even cheating or whatsoever. But what I'm really worried is, what if he isn't totally healed? It has just been 2 years since they broke up. And it has just been 3 months since we got married. We were in a relationship as bfgf for almost a year. (Brokeup was in October 2017. We met and got together in September 2018. Got married in January 2020) I know when i met him that he was so scarred for life for what his ex did to him. I really can't help it. I cried thinking about it. He doesn't know it yet. Maybe it's just PPD since i just gave birth last month. I need your advices mommies :( ... I'm really bothered. I'm overthinking and paranoid. Maybe signs of PPD talaga :(

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relate sis! 6 yrs sila ng ex gf nya na nagcheat, after 3 months of break up naging kami, may mga friends din sya na nagtatanong pano sila nagbreak, so sinesend rin nya mga nascreenshot nyang convo ng pagchicheat ng ex nya but he never made me feel that Im a rebound or I'm just a way so he could move on. He always assures me that he loves me and his ex was already part of the past and that I dont need to be insecure. He followed me when I went abroad because he said he doesn't want to lose me. We get married after a year. And up until now pinaparamdam pa rin nya sakin na Im the one. wag ka masyado magisip sis kung inaassure ka naman nya na mahal ka nya. kung di ka tlaga mapakali kausapin mo sya bakit kailangan pa nya itago mga screenshots nya, maiintindihan ka nya. Dont stress yourself too much. ☺️

Magbasa pa
4y ago

Hi we've talked na. But i am still bothered :( i guess there's more to me than that issue. Or it's just PPD taking its toll on me.