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Building up resilience in your kid to face life challenges. http://www.parentingideas.com.au/Parents/Resilience Having a positive attitude yourself. Your attitude as a parent impacts on their ability to bounce back from some of the difficulties they face. Make sure you model a ‘you can do it’ attitude for your child when he meets some of life’s curve balls. Look for teachable moments. Many kids’ learning opportunities are disguised as problems. Make the most of these opportunities so that kids can grow and learn from some of the challenges they face. Make kids active participants in the family. Active participation in a family develops the self-help, problem-solving and independence skills of kids that are necessary for resilience. Build kids coping skills. There are plenty of strategies you can pass on to kids to help them cope when life doesn’t go their way, including acceptance, getting away for awhile, and normalisation.

Perhaps it will be good to instill in him/her a sense a responsibility. In order for your child (or anyone, for that matter) to be successful and happy in life, I think it is important that we recognize that we are responsible for our actions. This way, your child will understand that his/her future lies in his/her own hands. Here is an useful article on how to teach kids responsibility: https://www.care.com/a/9-tips-for-teaching-kids-responsibility-1303120948 Another important point would be building up your child’s confidence. This article mentions some very simple points on how to help boost your child’s confidence: https://www.care.com/a/7-ways-to-boost-kids-confidence-1207180302 Lastly, this article highlighted five values that should be taught during the childhood years: https://www.care.com/a/7-ways-to-boost-kids-confidence-1207180302 Hope you found these useful in determining how to talk to your child during his/her growing up years.

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First you have to define success and happiness. More than what you say, maintaining a positive attitude is key to helping your children develop confidence which will lead them to excel at school and work.

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Saw this recently, thought it was good - http://www.upworthy.com/one-little-change-in-how-you-talk-to-your-kids-can-help-them-be-more-successful

I agree each person's definition of success is different. Mine would be based on attitudes and behaviour. Happiness should come from within.

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You need to clearly define to yourself and them what it means to be successful in life. How old are your kids?

@roshni not born yet, thought i'd ask ahead... kiasu parenting =)

thanks