How do you deal with it when your husband can't help fighting with you in front of your small kids?

it takes two to fight, and if only one person is fighting, it will soon fizzle out. i would suggest that if he is angry and fighting, restrain yourself from reacting then. let him calm down and vent himself. you can talk to him later when he is fine, and tell him your side of things. talk to him nicely and explain to him again that shouting and fighting in front of the kids will impact them negatively, and you know he is good dad, so it is important that kids do not get stressed out like this. if nothing works, you should both visit a counselor