Negative responses when revealing gender

Honestly quite disappointed by some elders' immediate responses when we told them we are expecting a girl (first child). So my question is: Anyone faced similar comments? Pls share! **Most replies here are advocating 'just ignore', 'don't be bothered'. šŸ˜‚ Haha, but my question is NOT 'Should I ignore them?' Of course I smiled and ignored them out of courtesy! But still bothered, and wondering if any mummy is in the same boat, to feel less alone and less frustrated in this pretty uncommon situation! And yes of cos hub & I will love our girl all the same.** Instead of congratulatory words, these were their responses. FIL went "Oh, äøč¦ē“§ la (never mind)." Uh, what is there even to mind in the very first place? He's never talked about the pregnancy since then, no small talk, no concern. Nothing. SIL went, "Oh, what did Father say about you having a girl?" the very moment we told her we are having a girl. I guess we all knew FIL would rather have a grandson for his first grandchild. Aunt went, "Oh...next one can have a boy." Wow. As if we didn't do a good job this time but oh we can try to excel next time. Huh(?!)

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I feel you! Even at my work place those cleaners will say ā€œnvm, girl also goodā€ but in the first place, I didn’t even say girl is not good and I didn’t ask for their opinion.. things became worst after I gave birth because my father in law didn’t even come and visit baby. Throughout my pregnancy, they didn’t even ask about me. It’s okay, next time don’t let them see baby. That’s what I am going to do since they prefer boy..

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ā¬†ļøYeah totally agree!