Negative responses when revealing gender

Honestly quite disappointed by some elders' immediate responses when we told them we are expecting a girl (first child). So my question is: Anyone faced similar comments? Pls share! **Most replies here are advocating 'just ignore', 'don't be bothered'. 😂 Haha, but my question is NOT 'Should I ignore them?' Of course I smiled and ignored them out of courtesy! But still bothered, and wondering if any mummy is in the same boat, to feel less alone and less frustrated in this pretty uncommon situation! And yes of cos hub & I will love our girl all the same.** Instead of congratulatory words, these were their responses. FIL went "Oh, 不要紧 la (never mind)." Uh, what is there even to mind in the very first place? He's never talked about the pregnancy since then, no small talk, no concern. Nothing. SIL went, "Oh, what did Father say about you having a girl?" the very moment we told her we are having a girl. I guess we all knew FIL would rather have a grandson for his first grandchild. Aunt went, "Oh...next one can have a boy." Wow. As if we didn't do a good job this time but oh we can try to excel next time. Huh(?!)

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Hi Mum, I know it is hard to but simply ignore to all this negativity as it is really baseless. Take care and love your baby whole heartedly because the happiness of the baby and yourself is most important 😊

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Same like me! I had a daughter first and I've received so many comments like that. My second child is finally boy 😅 and now they prefer my first born instead 🙄😂

Tell them if everyone had a boy. Then the boy become what? Gay? Because no one have girls and the family will not have any descendants. Is that what he wants?

A lot of older generation prefer boys. Very backward thinking. The baby is your own. No need to please them. I think having girls is wonderful.

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Tell them, oh unfortunately, gender is determined by husband's sperm. So ask your son if he can give me a son 😂😂😂😂😂

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You’re not only alone, mommy...same with you..hug you.. I just smile and say to define baby’s gender is depend from man..

And some countries ruled by woman! Queen or PM! And most cases woman look after their parents even after they get married!

4y ago

haha thanks, will counter with these points if anyone dares to make some snide remarks about my baby's gender again.

the baby just need your love most :) dun take it to heart, the generation gap or thoughts that we can't change!

oh no i havnt know the gender of the baby yet. but my in.laws are hoping to be a boy bec first baby of the family

4y ago

Same, but they can’t choose or neither I can.

Lols I didn’t want to know the gender of the kid so I was lucky that none of the elders commented at all