Setting boundaries for hospital visitors

Hi, ftm here. I’m due end june and most likely going to be doing a c-sec. Everyone has been super excited for the baby to come and talking about visiting at the hosp. Am i the asshole for not wanting any visitors, especially on the 1st day of birth because I want to be able to rest properly? Not sure how to bring it up to my in laws and parents that I don’t want them to visit at the hosp on the day baby arrives without offending them. They’ve all been talking about it like it’s a given thing. I get that they’re excited but I’m really worried I’ll be super overwhelmed if they’re all around fussing right after the surgery and I won’t be able to rest properly if there are visitors around even if it’s my own parents. My in laws and parents are both very traditional so it’s like a natural given to them that they will be at the hospital immediately after I give birth, but I’m really dreading it and I’m not sure what to do.

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Hello mommy! Definitely not an asshole for wanting to rest properly! Be it c sect or natural delivery, you need a proper rest & sleep to recover your body! I would suggest you to talk directly to your parents and your husband to talk to his that you need to rest on the first day and maybe they can come on the second or third day instead (based on how you would like to arrange). It is not easy to host visitors after delivering (because it will take a toll on your mental) so please prioritise your rest first over other things, and be direct!

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