Visitors to hospital

Question

Im going to deliver my no2 by C section again. Im wondering if I can tell all family members that I dont want visitors except for my Mom & dad who will be bringing my no.1 to visit. Also because I really dont want to have to face my in-laws after such a major operation and still have to Chit chat with them.... plus after c-section, you need to pass gas which is a healthy sign and breastfeed... had so many visitors for no1, I felt like I was unable to rest and I really hated it that my in laws visited daily and brought my Husband old baby photos... like I really dont care about it.. its not a party or a social event!!! LolMy relationship with my in laws are kind of complicated too and its awkward when my parents and them meet too due to some fighting over my no1 when he was a baby (basically my MIL suddenly wanted to look after my baby once a week and I said NO and she said Im v rude in setting boundaries...haha) ... I really dont Want to have to think about such awkwardness after my c section!!!! but then its like v bad if I dont allow my in laws to visit my no2 at the hospital?? Haiz

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I feel you mummy. As i have similar situation, my understanding husband actually helped me in this. He was the one who told me that I should get more rest and shall not inform anyone else except my own parents and in laws BUT he will try to tell in laws that i need more rest, please try not to disturb me in hospital, if they would want to visit the baby, they may do so when we were alrd home or after 1st month. It helps! Get hubby to talk to them, tell them you just had c-sect and requires more rest than natural. Think they would understand better. So end up my In laws didnt come, only sil came and visit like less than 30mins. Other than that, only my parents came with my no1 to visit us in hospital.

Anonymous

7y ago

Thank you :)

Jena Lim Xiang Ying · Answer

Id say that you are the mother of your children, so do what you feel is best! I cant exactly advise on what you can do with your in-laws, but when I gave birth, I only told a small handful of friends that:1) I delivered the baby2) Id reply late for the next few weeks because Id be spending all my time with my newborn so I wouldnt have time to reply them3) Nobody should come visit until I said it was okay (I didnt tell them the ward/room etc, and made it clear we didnt want any visitors until confinement is over)For my relatives, I dont keep in contact with them so my parents shared the news - and the spam goes to them and not me. Likewise, we were firm in saying that we didnt want any visitors until the full month celebration!