Setting boundaries for hospital visitors

Hi, ftm here. I’m due end june and most likely going to be doing a c-sec. Everyone has been super excited for the baby to come and talking about visiting at the hosp. Am i the asshole for not wanting any visitors, especially on the 1st day of birth because I want to be able to rest properly? Not sure how to bring it up to my in laws and parents that I don’t want them to visit at the hosp on the day baby arrives without offending them. They’ve all been talking about it like it’s a given thing. I get that they’re excited but I’m really worried I’ll be super overwhelmed if they’re all around fussing right after the surgery and I won’t be able to rest properly if there are visitors around even if it’s my own parents. My in laws and parents are both very traditional so it’s like a natural given to them that they will be at the hospital immediately after I give birth, but I’m really dreading it and I’m not sure what to do.

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Easiest and fastest way is speak directly to each parents (your hubby to his parents, you talk to your own parents). Tell them your perspective, let them know you understand their eagerness to see baby and that you’ll arrange for them to see baby when you discharge, but you would like proper, undisrupted rest during your hospital stay. Sometimes, got to be direct with your no(s) else you’re just gonna end up giving in and then torturing yourself.

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