They’re experienced and know when to ask you to push (based on your contractions). But it’s important to know how to push effectively in order to get the baby out before you tire out, so they generally make you do the pushes in cycles of 3 for each contraction. If you already expect that, then you won’t feel pressured I guess? Take sips of water in between cycles if you can, and prepare yourself for the next cycle. I would say the tears are not really their fault, but when I felt the pain, I just couldn’t help but push hard to relieve my pain? Hahaha. Of course, I had more tears for the first one, but thankfully only minor tears for the second. Only your husband is allowed in there with you
Yang Shu Wen