I’m tired

Currently at 21 weeks , feeling more and more tired as the day passes by and I can’t sleep well at night I have used up my leave and MC and currently starting to ask my gynae to give me HL everytime when I see him. But everytime I take HL I will hv those annoying colleague that will say things that make me feels very uncomfortable and it affects me a lot .. and slowly even my lady boss who actually is ok with me taking HL suddenly ask me to be CONSIDERATE to my other colleagues who has been working when I’m not ard. But the problem is when I’m not pregnant I’m the one who is covering working OT volunteer to work extra when there is no one who work extra but yet this is what I get . And I didn’t even complain that I’m tired when I work OT . But yet now , this one particular person who contributes nth in the team keeps complaining that he is tired when he DONT even want to work OT don’t want work PH. It’s making me very miserable . Making me feel that it’s wrong for me to be pregnant.

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Im so sorry that you have to go through that. Somehow sound like u have a toxic colleague that you cant avoid. Of course the manager have to be fair but i rather she also take the consideration that you are pregnant,heavily pregnant i suppose at this phase. Its definitely normal for you to feel more tired , so dont pressure urself to feel that you being pregnant its a burden. I would advise you to relax as much and do not get into the negative vibes of the toxic colleague. Just continue as what you are comfortable and since your gynae allow HL, make use of it. It is ur entitlement anyway, just ignore all those negative comments. Cheer up!

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3y ago

Thank you ! Yes I can understand from my boss point of view that she have to be fair .. but she is asking me to be considerate to the others den who is gonna be considerate to me den ? Yup it’s our entitlement but somehow this entitlement doesn’t seems to be OUR entitlement 😭

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Oh dear , I truly understand ur feeling as I seen the same situation when I working with colleagues.. but it’s ok just ignore them .. now u n ur baby is more important than all tht nonsense.. don’t ever take it in to ur heart .. coz while in pregnancy time we r more sensitive to everything.. we expect more care n more love .. we can’t take negative comments .. jus ignore it n concentrate on ur happy baby , how ever u feel it affects ur baby n ur pregnancy journey.. just think positive n b healthy

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3y ago

Sometimes I feels like ignoring but it seems hard .. and really ! During my pregnancy I really feel I need really extra TLC from people. I thought it just me .. cause yesterday when I ask my hubby to message my leg for me , and he jokingly nag abit . And I just burst out crying 😂 and I think he got a shock of his life my first pregnancy I’m not like that ..

I believe even you're not pregnant, those people will still react like that & no one will appreciate your hard work. This clueless fact is happened in everywhere. So just ignore those comment & prioritized yours & baby health. I'm currently facing some hard time too, really can't wait for ML soon to have a breath out from work. Hugz!

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Just take HL and ignore the negative comments. This kind of situation is prone to happen. Hence, since u have been working hard before pregnancy, this is your time to relax and stay positive. Hopefully, and as long as ur rice bowl is still secure, nothing to be worry so much ok! Stay strong!

Just prioritised yours & baby health. Nothing is important than this! Sometimes we need to filter and delete negative message from external world. Take care and hugz!

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I can understand your situation. Try not to affected by it. It's important to stay positive during pregnancy.

3y ago

I think only those who went through what I’m going through understands .. and sadly the person who been complaining is a father of 2 somemore .. 😅

Same here 😔 I've been struggling in work 😢

continue to be positive

Same here

Same here