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Bea i think the best way para maiwasan ang pag lihim ng mga anak sa akung ano mang bagay not just having a boyfriend or a girlfriend, as parents we should show to them that we are trusted and we can be not just moms and dads but a bestfriend too who they can lean on and share there secrets. Maybe in just a simple way of like asking them Oh anak kumusta ka na ? checking on them and telling them that andito lang ako makikinig sayo anak pag gusto mo ng kausap. As parents we should be sensitive enough sa akung ano man ang pinag dadaanan ng ating mga anak , wag natin silang baliwain coz ang tendency is di talaga sila mag oopen up kasi they would think na "ah wala namang pakiaalam ang mga magulang ko so better to stay it as secret" . Kunin natin ang loob nila by letting them feel that we care and love them so much .
Be a friend to your child but know how to set boundaries. Once she considers you as someone who can know all her secrets and can comfortably share something like this, chances of her hiding things from you will lessen. But as I've said, set boundaries - being friends with your child should not mean she can always treat you as one and forget that you're an 'authority' in the house. You can say that tho you approve of her to be engaged in a romantic relationship, you don't mean that she can always go out with the guy anytime she want and do whatever they want. It's best that she knows you still monitor her whilst you care about what goes with them and what she feels especially when you share the happiness she also gets in that sitch.
Kilalanin mo ang lahat ng kaibigan niya. Sa bahay niyo sana mag-tambay ang mga bata, wag mo masyadong hayaang sa labas sila nagkikita-kita. Kakausapin mo, kakamustahin mo. Hayaan mo siyang magkwento tungkol sa friends niya at mga nakapaligid sa kanya, good or bad. Ako kasi lumaking open naman sa nanay ko, open naman din siya sakin. kinekwento ko sa nanay ko yung mga friends ko, o kahit hindi friends ko. I-de-date mo yung anak mo, kasi mas open sila if "relaxed" yung environment. Iassure mo lang na hindi mo siya i-ja-judge or basta nandiyan ka lang sa tabi niya lagi. Tulungan at turuan mo siyang mapalapit kay Lord para may matibay siyang proteksyon at pundasyon para makaiwas sa mga taong maaaring maka-harm sa kanya.
First of all, is your kid a teenager? If yes, don't ask them when there are other people around and don't tease them. Remember you were once a teenager also, and these kind of topics felt a bit awkward to talk to an adult about. Just assure him/her, that you are available to listen to them and be there for them if they ever need you. Also, reassure them that its perfectly normal to be going through this type of phase, and its very important to have "the talk" with them. Keep a very mature, open and friendly environment with them. Don't talk to them in a condemning kind of tone. You know how sensitive teenagers can be. Best of luck!
Open communication is the key. Let you child feel na nanjan ka para makinig sa kanya lalo na kung may pinagdadaanan siya. Don't make your child feel na iju-judge natin sila let's say because of their friends or their hobbies. Always keep in mind that we, as parents, have the responsibility to guide our kids kahit malalaki na sila. It might also be a good idea if you set a regular date with your child just to talk about anything. This way, your child would feel that you're still the best person to open up to whenever they have problems. it's good to establish their trust on you so you won't have to worry na maglilihim sila sayo.
It all starts with creating an atmosphere of openness that makes them feel that they can safely share anything. Pag di kasi natatakot magshare ang bata, it helps parents guide them better. If OA magreact at the slightest talk of relationships or super strict, teens tend to shut down and choose to confide in friends. Make them feel na di sila judged and loved no matter what. But also be firm about their limitations and make them see why these are so important. Help them see the bigger picture which can be difficult when one is young. But with the right guidance in a caring environment, maiiwasan ang paglilihim nila talaga.
I think best way is to keep communication lines open and to be a friend to your child. Easier said than done, I know. Good to raise them din to be responsible adults, so even if maglihim sila, you can trust them. Maybe they just want that privacy during the infancy stage of the relationship. A mom once shared to me that it really is impossible to watch your kids 24/7, so you raise them in a way that you'll know they'll do the right thing even when you're not around because it makes sense to them and is according to their values.
Open communication talaga ang ultimate solution dito because if you have a healthy and open communication with your child, and tendency is comfortable na sila to tell you almost anything and that lesses yung probability of hiding about something from you. Also, since magkaiba ng generation ang parents at kids, you need to adjust and meet halfway para mafeel nila na it is okay to tell you something and that they won't be judged. From this, mas magagabayan sila at mapapaunawa yung idea of having a relationship at their age.
I am way too far from this situation as I only have a 3 year-old. But, I think, the best way is to always have a good and open communication with your kids. If at early age nasanay na sila to share their thoughts and tell you about how their day went, mas comfortable na sila to tell you even about their crushes. Just support them and guide them every step of the way because it will help them feel assured that they aren't judged but accepted and guided.
I'm still years ahead of that topic for my little boy pero I promised to myself na I won't kill his openness as much as possible. Gusto kasi namin, as parents, our kids will share whatever they want to share. I guess mas maganda if we don't force the kids to be like this, like that. Baka itago nila yung mga bagay bagay na sa tingin nila hindi natin magugustuhan. So to answer your question, openness starting at a very young age and maintain it until he has grown.