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I have been out of jobs since I withdrew my #1 from infantcare and only recently went back to work after a tedious time finding an available slot in childcare for my son. However, my job is only a temporary assignment of 3 mths as I am pregnant. I am facing some financial difficulties thus have also switched from private gynae to subsidised one and cut down on many expenses and am aggressively looking for part time or freelance jobs but chances of being hired seem very low. I have a major concern which is the childcare fee. Soon I will not qualify for working mother subsidies. Are there any avenues through which I can apply subsidies or gov help for my son's childcare fees while I give birth and take 1-2 months to recuperate?

Do you have family member (e.g. parents or in-laws) at home to help to take care your no.1? If yes, you might want to consider to let your no.1 to join 4 hours kindergarten (N1 to K2) instead? This will be a cheaper alternative. If there is no caretaker at home, you can actually try to apply additional subsidy as mentioned by Reine above.

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Choosing a boys name

How do you usually decide on your child's name if both are different genders. my #1 is girl and I'm expecting a boy this time. #1 name is Clarabelle. Would you choose a name that begins with the alphabet 'C' for your #2 or? Any nice names to suggest for baby boys?

I had a famous artist/painter name in mind when I was pregnant. However, my baby was quite a kicker, he(as I later found out the gender from the ultrasound scans) literally loves to kick a lot in my belly when I was pregnant with him. Anyway what I did was to read out (aloud) several baby names I liked from my mum's old book of baby names and one of the names wasn't met with any resistance (this was the one name he didn't kick at from within my belly, unlike all the others). I even felt a sense of inner peace when I mentioned that name aloud. That was how I knew that would be my baby's name 😂.

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i have an 11 mth old and will be due to deliver #2 next mth. i have yet to prepare anything for #2. can mummies with babies 1 year apart share how u prepare for the second one? do i need to get another rocker, cot, more milk bottle storage, etc? wld it be necessary to get a tandem stroller or do u babywear the older one while the newborn gets to sit in the current stroller that u have for #1?

I think you will probably need more bottles. Cot would be whether you intend to co-sleep with the newborn and also depends on what is your current sleeping arrangement with your firstborn. If your firstborn is still using the rocker, you may also need to consider getting another one to avoid your firstborn from getting jealous that his/her things are being taken away. Tandem strollers would be convenient in future if the need arises. But like what Vanessa mentioned, may be good to see how your children like being in the stroller. Guess one important thing to get is a gift from the baby to his/her elder sibling. And also one from the elder one to the newborn. All the best Mummy!!! Hope you can get as much rest as you can possibly get now!

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i am a sahm and i'm now suffering from burnout. Currently, caring for a 3yo toddler and 3mo baby. at times, the demand is too overwhelming especially when both are breastfed and both wakes up for night feed freqently. #1 tends to use his teeth when he feeds which irritates me. while #2 fuss over fast flow and often make a mess. #1 has been d/l and will only want d/l... he refuse to wean. i hate breastfeeding (to certain extend). sorry for such a negative post.

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I think you need to start training your 3 year old toddler to take the bottle or drink from a cup so that you can focus on breastfeeding your 3 month old baby. It will help tremendously. In time to come, your body can regulate the milk supply. Hang in there! It’s amazing that you can breastfeed for so long. I am so envious...

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I'm a SAHM..Ever since my #2 arrival, me and my husb always quarrel and quarrel infront of my #1 who is 33mth and also #2 even tho #2 still don't understand... i always told my husb not to quarrel infront if the kids but he always don't want to listen... sometime he even can me names infront of the kids.. i feel because of my husb quarrel infront of my kids, #1 seem to lost respect to me and become bad tempered etc etc.. what should i do? Sometime i feel i want to give up living, give up in this marriage.. what should i do so my kids won't lost their respect to me and won't follow their father footstep?

I understand your frustration. mayb try to talk in close door like when ur kids are asleep, and when both of u are more clam, talk to ur partner inside the room and explain the unhappiness thats happening. I been wher u are, and things can get ugly sometimes. my kids are everytg to me now after 10years of marriage, it affact my daughter alot and shes only 8 now, and she seens everytg since day 1..at times they still talk about it and told me how they really feel at that point of time. as a mother it really sad to hear from our own child that they remember what's going on eventho we as parents think that they too young to understand, but the generations now is diffrent than the past. dnt let anger control u in watever situation is. tc my friend

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