my wife shunned me, wanted to move away. it's because I hurt emotionally with hurtful and cynical words . emotional abuse.  i did not watch her heart.  this is the fifth year of marriage. both re-married with kids of former. 
we just start to see counselling.  and i know it is not an immediate remedy.  
i realised my errors and trying to correct. she saw the changes. she said it's now her problem. she cannot forget my abuse to her. 
how can i speed up her recovery? i am also suffering and depressed becos of her rejection. 
before this we are very loving. 
seek yr advice.  
thank you