Rs with husband salty after having baby

Just wanted to rant, as a first time working mum and still adapting to the changes. Ever since my baby was born, till now 4m, i feel like my rs with husband is mostly on the salty bad side. It’s always us being triggered, arguments, quarrelling and fighting. I always feel like im not being appreciated or loved at all. Like i had a very bad traumatic long labour which ended up in csect, even after all the sacrifices i put myself and my body through, i still dont feel appreciated. My husband rarely hugs me, cuddle or even hold hand. I feel distant. We’re both working office hrs (there are times when he need to ot till night), and when back from work, need to fetch baby from infant care and by the time we’re back home we’re already so tired and out of energy. Even on weekends its very tiring. Due to always being tired and lack of sleep, we’re always triggered over the smallest things. Even when we’re out with just both of us without baby, we would end up fighting. So pls dont recommend date nights itll never work esp with baby and us wanting to stay home due to tiredness I always feel very lonely and sad. I want to be loved and appreciated. And no point bringing it up to my husband cs will end up huge fight. Any mummies also going thru this and does it get better?

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On the point on cuddling, hugs and holding hands, we have long stopped doing that for very long. After my 2nd one, i feel we argue much more (my sis tries to help out at times hoping we dun fight). I grumble over the smallest ting (freaking tired coz i am pumping 8 times every day now) but i tried to keep myself sane. Dun feel lonely! Im sure there are people who are worse out there.

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