Down as maternity leave ends - separation anxiety with baby

Just a little rant as my maternity leave has ended and ill be back working tomorrow onwards. My baby’s in ifc, and i feel so down and bad for my baby as ill be fetching me later than usual 😣 like almost coming to 7pm when during maternity leave i always fetch him latest by 5pm. I feel like a bad mon. And my baby’s life will mostly be in IFC. I don’t why i always feel like crying when thinking about it. I did try to clear my remaining AL, so called extend my maternity leave, but due to manpower my leave was rejected. Just wanted to spend more time with baby as i feel by the time i fetch him from ifc, already evening, after shower and milk he’ll go to sleep straight till next morning. Like i only have few hrs with him in a day. Is this just a first time mum syndrome ? Will this feeling tone down or go away soon?

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hugs! im a first time mom to my 9 month old son. i was im ur position too, i cried literally everyday, i took lotsa unpaid leaves until to the extend i dont want to let my son away from my sight. it takes time for me to adapt, accept. I tried my best to accept everything.. and here i am looking at the bright side of it where even my son is at home i wouldnt have the time to really sit with him, play with him, read books with him while i have to the the house chores. so dont worry, give urself sometime, u will overcome it. 😊 he is well taken care off, he will learn, interact well, progress well too. decide what you want to do, dont stress urself. u need lotsa rest, mummy. our son need us. 😊

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If u feel that way then i must hv been a terrible mum too. I’m a first time mum as well to a 7 mth old Bb Girl. I only see my Bb twice a week after my ML ends and bck to work. Reason is that i stay far from my workplace and i ended up placing my bb under my sister’s care. I stay in north east and my sis staying in the west. I only fetch my bb after work when the next day is my day off. Spend 2 nights and one day with Bb Girl and then send her back to my sis place when i need to work. But now, i had to change job that ends early as i will be placing her to Infantcare next January and will get to fetch, see and sleep with her everyday. I don’t want to miss any 1st milestones of hers anymore.

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Hugs mummy. My boy has been in IFC since 3 months, now he is turning 18 months next month. First day sending him to IFC, I went home and cried. But now, he is a happy and healthy toddler, and he is well loved and cared for by his teachers. He learns to socialise very early on. Now I’m pregnant with my 2nd, I have no qualms or worries to send to IFC as I know they will be in good hands!

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From my first child, i never had the chance to pick her up from ifc because my office and her sch are super far apart and by the time i reach her sch, i also wouldnt be able to make it. U r not a bad mom. Im sending my 2nd child to ifc the moment he can go school. I m not sure if i shld still change my plans…. My plans to wfh on days we wfh also got rejected…

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Hugs. At least baby gets to enjoy some activities in ifc. You’re not a bad mom. Sometimes we need to make difficult decisions. I’m sure with time, you will find ways to make things better

think positive. he has friend and will learn in school. I feel you. unless you have someone else to look after your child or ifc is the best solution

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