Dont feel the bond with baby even after a month

Question

Is it normal that even after a month, i dont feel the bond with my baby at all? And i dont feel that love towards my baby? Im not sure if its because of the post partum blues or the pain that im still feeling after csection. I also feel like i still cannot move on from the fact that i had to go thru emergency csection and im still not recovering even after a month. maybe one of the reason why i dont feel that kind of love towards my baby. Mainly cause i am in still in pain?Im scared i wont feel at all even after months. Is there something wrong with me ? And yes during the first month my husband handles the baby mostly, if not, my MIL. But now both has started working, im feeling very stressed with baby around.

Xiamen Ng · Answer

Hey mummy , u are not alone as I went thru similar thing . It’s mainly due to hormones. I started questioning myself why I had such feeling but once you overcome ur postpartum blue, u will love your baby very much . Skin to skin and more breastfeeding will help😉

EL W · Answer

Hi! I resonate a lot with your feelings because I went through EXACTLY the same issue but I went thru vaginal delivery. Even then, I couldn’t feel love for my baby until around 3 months old. My baby is now 19mo and I’m having number 2 on the way. Things got better after my postpartum hormones balance out, plus continued bonding with baby. Breastfeeding and more skin to skin contact can help create more endorphins (happy hormones). I truly enjoy my baby only when she got more interactive and responsive, ie. 7mo onwards.