Today my heart broke a little bit. It was my little ones first day of preschool and I brought my helper along to assist me. When we were ready to leave, my little one kept bawling away and would not let go of my helper and kept saying "ateh, don't leave me" (ateh is big Sister). I told my baby, ok, mumma can take time off from work and spend with you and she replied, no I want ateh to stay and play with me. I feel jealous and hurt that my baby prefers The Maid to me. Am I being unreasonable? I feel like changing maids.

It's never too late to change the situation, it's good that at least you feel this way, mean we are bonding not enough with our kids, that the kids prefer the helper/caregiver instead of the mum. Do plan how you can bond with your child after she back from school. My girl go school full day, hence after school, i will spend a bit of time with her, give her materials to do activities, doesn't need to accompany her whole night, about 30 minutes +- is good and let her free and easy. Too dependent on us also not a good thing too. Don't change your helper if she can get along well with ur child and treat her well, it's not easy to find a good helper nowsday too. After all, you are the mother, just keep bonding, it'll get better.