Ignore those naysayers. They'll nvr know since they don't experience it themselves. I'm a working mom and yes, every single day I feel guilty for leaving my kids in childcare/infantcare. As a teacher myself, I'm even spending more time with other ppl's kids than my own. Yes, I do have annoying ppl telling me why don't you just care for your own kids instead of giving them to other ppl to be taken care of. Easy for them to say. Many times I've thought of quitting esp when my kids are sick and annoying supervisor telling me not to take too many childcare leave (I did not even use up all for goodness sake!) But having elderly parents without retirement savings mean I NEED to work. Ughh hate how our society, including employer (civil service included) aren't understanding at all. So much for championing family friendly practices because unfortunately not all being treated that way. Sorry ranting abt a different issue but still it sucks being judged whatever decision we make as a mom 😩
Sometimes I feel that way too. I'm also a working mother, but curiously enough, I get those looks from my colleagues when I say tt the baby is in ifc haha. Like baby so young go ifc, so poor thing. While it's definitely not pleasant to feel judged,I am aware tt being a SAHM will drive me nuts. So, I simply choose to focus on my family when I'm home and put work aside. After all, I'm the one going through it ,not others. They can say all they want,but I'm earning my keep, I made arrangements for my baby's care the best I could, so my conscience is clear. Also, happy mummy, happy baby. If mummy is happy, I think that matters just as much as the baby.
As a SAHM, I have to say I really salute working mums! It’s not easy to juggle work and children. I personally know I won’t be able to handle the stress. You are doing a very good job, please trust yourself on that. There is no best of both world, you choose SAH, you have no income. End of the day, you’re not neglecting your child 24/7, you are sacrificing your time with them to be able to provide the best for their future. Always remember that your life, your child and your choice, no one has the rights to put you down for that. Not even your own parents.
I'm a SAHM and I get the opposite. Like how could I only let my husband work and I stay at home. A few things said here and there I ignored and laughed at but I still feel it. What's important is what you and your husband have agreed on. Anybody else's opinions are not important. You kinda have to learn to shove it out and do what makes you happy. It's a different generation now and the older ones have to deal with that.
I am a SAHM, but I also get judgements like “How are your children surviving on single income?” “How are you going to support your kids financially if your husband is no longer around?” It just makes me feel worthless staying at home. No matter what we do, ppl will definitely have something to say.
You do you. You’re teaching your children, especially girls, that chasing dreams is not only for men. Your parents and in laws are old school, maybe. Do they hold the same expectation towards your hb too? Stand up for yourself. Some ppl only learnt to respect others after getting bashed
Speak up for yourself , tell them:” i am not good , since you old peopel knows a lot how to be a good parents, come on and take care of my kids lol. We are family , family should help each other not hurt each other”. I once said that, then everyone shut up.
My husband is doing very well and told me to quit my job after the 1st trimester!😂 My parents are supportive of it too. Highly encourage those who can afford it to go for it. Extremely liberating!
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