Since pregnancy i moved back to parents house and parents help me look after baby since the day baby was born and sleep with baby since she born. And now she is 1 years old and everytime baby see MIL she will also cry or when she go back their house she cry alot and i feel so heartbroken . And after birth i find job near my parents place and its impossible for me to quit and bring baby back.. we are staying East (Tampines) and they are staying west (Boon Lay) and travelling back is long and we only went back every weekend for dinner. And now MIL ask say she want to take care of baby what should i do ? In MIL House there only 1 person who can take care baby which is my Mil and she have to do housework and some chores daily as no one will be home in the morning till night and i afraid her style of looking after baby and baby will only face one person whereas at my home she will face many people such as both of my parents and siblings and she get to play , go out and also learn things as someone will teach him at my home. And also partly because i m working near my parents home . And i really dont feel like moving into their house to stay again :( Now i m so complicated. If you was me in such scene will you quit your job and moved back to MIL place stay and find a job near her place instead ? And let her look after baby ? Or you prefer to stick as of now ..

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I think that in life, the person that you should ultimately please is yourself - because if you try to please everyone else, you get so frustrated and tired of everything because you are not happy. And for a parent, that's what's most important because you have to be happy and well-rested to look after your family! Having said that, I think you should not move to your MIL's place just to please her - BUT, you can make other arrangements like going over for a weekend or smth! I think the main thing is that your MIL feels like she's missing out on her grandchild's life, so she wants more time with her - so perhaps going back as a family once a week, or planning outings that bring your PIL together would help :) Of course, you need to explain clearly and calmly why you chose not to - and I think that having to take care of the house and her grandchild would be too much for her to handle.

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