4 Day Old Baby

Recently just gave birth. My baby is 4 days old and he has not pooped for almost 2 days now. And most people are just telling me that I am not feeding enough even though I am dping it every 2 hours and even my husband just keeps pushing me to do more... I am so tired, exhausted and just so beaten down... just want to sit and cry Is this normal? I am breast feeding him and because my supply is not very good I was told by a lactation nurse to top up with a formula and so I did. My baby and I went for a check up on Monday and they took his blood for a jaundice check and he went crazy crying and screaming. I dont know what to do... I have been breastfeeding now for 4 days and my nipples are all sore and cracked and so I have gone to using hand expressions and breast pumps just to feed. Plus, yesterday my baby had some brick dust in the diaper... Anyone else going through this?

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Super Mum

Hi dear.. I need to tell you some important things. 1. Not every baby poops every day. 2. Stop listening to unhelpful comments. 3. It’s completely normal for your supply to be inadequate at the moment. My baby was super hungry during the first month because of jaundice. I couldn’t meet her demand from breastmilk alone till after her jaundice settled (after 1 month). So, yes, top up with formula. Helps the jaundice resolve more quickly too. 4. Tell your husband you’re not a cow. He should be helping you feed baby (formula), not just be a backseat driver. Did you know that feeling stressed, not resting enough and not drinking enough fluids are big factors for having inadequate breastmilk? So ask him to stop stressing you out. (Nicely, of course:)) 5. Your nipples need some treatment. The Medela purelan ointment worked wonders for me. Even with the cracks, I could apply the ointment then latch baby on immediately with a huge improvement in the pain score. 6. Things don’t need to be perfect. You’re recovering from labour. Everything is new, uncertain and scary. So throw out expectations of perfection and try to take things one step at a time. And try to enjoy it okay? Motherhood is a learning journey, but it’s also fun and fulfilling ❤️

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Hi, it’s still very early on. My LO is now 3mths and I was like you so very exhausted plus i was a csect mummy. Every night I thought to myself that I want to give up breastfeeding because on top of being tired, it was really painful. And he wakes up so often (just as im about to fall asleep) and the process repeat. I was against feeding formula but caved in for 1-2 night feeds thru cup feeding as my supply have not kicked in and it truly helped baby to sleep longer plus better rest for us. Third wk, the supply was enough and until now i’m exclusively breastfeeding him. Similar to you, baby had to take blood and hr was crying murder and it made me cry. But it is to ensure they are safe so i hope you can have a positive mind for this. You can think of it as the first of many “pain” that he has to go through and you have to be a strong mama fr them. Find someone you can let your heart out to- husband, a close friend and tell them everything so u feel better. Breastfeeding the first few weeks is a painful process but from experience it gets a lot better. Both of you are still new to this so it takes time. Hang in there and I hope things get better!

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Super Mum

It’s very exhausting as a new mother when you are sleep deprived and stuck with a crying newborn. My milk only came in on the 5th day and I had to feed my LO formula during the first 4 days. Newborns need time and practice to be able to latch well. Try different breastfeeding positions. You can latch on demand and need not follow the 2-hr mark. Do put nipple cream or breastmilk to your sore and cracked nipples and air dry. It will get better! Brick dust is common and will get better once you make more milk. Just remember to latch on demand so that your body can make more milk and self regulate the supply in the first 6 weeks

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Super Mum

It’s very exhausting as a new mother when you are sleep deprived and stuck with a crying newborn. My milk only came in on the 5th day and I had to feed my LO formula during the first 4 days. Try different breastfeeding positions. You can latch on demand and need not follow the 2-hr mark. Do put nipple cream or breastmilk to your sore and cracked nipples and air dry. It will get better! Brick dust is common and will get better once you make more milk. Just remember to latch on demand so that your body can make more milk and self regulate the supply in the first 6 weeks

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Follow what nurse advice. Your health is just as important as your baby health. Put breastfeeding issue aside and settle your cracked nipple as well as baby jaundice first. Breastfeeding should be a bonding and loving process instead of just an obligation of a mother. Tell your husband he is the man of the family and his duty is to take care of EVERYONE including his wife. My husband dare not ask me pump pump pump cos I will tell people that he didn't feed me enough that's why my supply no enough.

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Jiayou mummy. My milk supply didnt come in until 1 week as well. And was facing terrible pains from prolapse piles, episiotomy wound, extreme fatigue and lots of crying. Agree with the other mummys. Look after yourself first. Eat regularly drink plenty of fluids and get rest. With enough calorie intake and rest the milk supply will come. Meanwhile top up with formula milk. Talk to husband about your feelings. It will get better I promise!!

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Hi. Hugs. I didnt produce much milk too. I've no milk slightly before 1mth. You can try to use electric pump regularly to regulate/stimulate and try produce more milk. Also you can see how much milk you are producing. I hope better days are coming for you asap.

Hi. Hugs. I didnt produce much milk too. I've no milk slightly before 1mth. You can try to use electric pump regularly to regulate/stimulate and try produce more milk. Also you can see how much milk you are producing. I hope better days are coming for you asap.