Other people say baby can help save failing relationship. But I dun get it. To me is got baby become worth. As can say my husband doesn't like kids. Always like to throw to his mum side to take care. But I doesn't like his mum side to take care. Cos they will keep carry the baby . can carry up to 2/3 hr if baby dun sleep. I know elderly like baby. But this is too much. And I have no right to say them. If I say them. My husband will quarrel with me. I'm alone taking care baby. But when going back my mother in law house. My lo come back doesn't want to sleep. Keep crying non stop. Just wan to be carried. I'm really tired of this. And husband saw and he doesn't want to care.

Sorry to hear you’re getting frustrated Erin :( I was in a similar position but with my own mother! If I try to voice out my opinions, she will make it seem that I am not appreciative of her help. Then know, comes guilt when I do need her help to take care of baby. 

If I could advise my younger self though, I would calmly tell her the reasons why. Elderly, they will nag, but ultimately as the years go by, they will respect your parenting stance and ability. They may not admit it, but they will ease up. I know, easier said than done. In the meantime, tell your hubby that your sleepless nights would mean his sleepless nights too. So, must work together to put baby to rest. Get him on board with the ‘Happier mummy, happier family’ concept. Here are articles on 1. how to deal with in laws and 2. a baby who wants to be held all the time: 

1. https://sg.theasianparent.com/how-to-keep-interfering-in-laws-in-line/ 2. https://sg.theasianparent.com/help-my-baby-wants-to-be-held-all-the-time/ Stay strong mummy!