Sorry to hear you’re getting frustrated Erin :(
I was in a similar position but with my own mother! If I try to voice out my opinions, she will make it seem that I am not appreciative of her help. Then know, comes guilt when I do need her help to take care of baby.
If I could advise my younger self though, I would calmly tell her the reasons why. Elderly, they will nag, but ultimately as the years go by, they will respect your parenting stance and ability. They may not admit it, but they will ease up. I know, easier said than done.
In the meantime, tell your hubby that your sleepless nights would mean his sleepless nights too. So, must work together to put baby to rest. Get him on board with the ‘Happier mummy, happier family’ concept.
Here are articles on 1. how to deal with in laws and 2. a baby who wants to be held all the time:
1. https://sg.theasianparent.com/how-to-keep-interfering-in-laws-in-line/
2. https://sg.theasianparent.com/help-my-baby-wants-to-be-held-all-the-time/
Stay strong mummy!
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