Just need to rant it all out .. I'm a SAHM .. my hubby is always so passive when it comes to helping me with our Two kids. For example , after he has finished his meal while I'm still struggling to feed our 9 months old, he can jus happily play with his phone or walk away to do his things even though he knows that I've not eaten n my plate filled with rice is still untouched on the table . After I've fed my Baby , I need to watch over him n gobble down the food that has already turned cold n many times I jus lost my appetite . Like jus now, I told him I haven't eaten yet but he jus keep quiet n do his own things. I'm so upset! :( we don't have helper or parents or in-laws at home so is entirely on our own . I have to ask him to help then he will slowly n reluctantly come n help :( Not only this , many other things too .. he is just so passive! Brought kids to East Coast .. he can Just sit farther away from the sea n play with phone while I struggle with Two kids at the beach near the sea. I'm really angry ! I don't believe that all husbands are like that ! I'm sure there are very hands-on daddies around ! I tried telling him directly . No use . I dunno what else I can do :(

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My hubby also tends to brush off the responsibility to take care of our child as he thinks is troublesome. This is the "Culture" that was bring down from the previous generation(s). Even when i was young, i do not remember a single moment that my own dad has really taken care of me besides giving my mom financial support. What I can really do to improve the next generation mentality is to "teach" my own son what is so important about nurturing his own kid in future together with his future wife. Now i got to teach both (hubby and son) together... Oh gosh... I will use this method everytime he acts up again... I will always start by asking do you like your own father, if not why? And why do you do the same and make your own son had the same feelings you have before? Do you want him to have this same feeling forever?.... Slowly my hubby realised he is repeating what his own father is doing and gradually turn things around... though he is rowdy in teaching and doing bonding but at least i can see he is trying... To all mummies out there complaining why hubby is not doing things, please at least educate your own son to break the cycle that only mother is the most "suitable" person to teach... "Fighting"

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