My husband & I had been separated for five months and we are living separately. I stay with my parents. He stays with a woman that he loved. Our separation is because of personal reasons. I had two children. He never ask about the children (aged 2yrs & 3 mths). I am just feeling lonely. Is it ok that I can look out for a man that is sincerely to know & me?

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It sounds like your current arrangement would be leading to a divorce. I would suggest you find out more about how to go about getting a divorce. You can consider the free legal clinic conducted by AWARE. They have experienced lawyers present at the session to explain to you your legal rights and options in a wide range of areas at a one-time consultation. It is open on the second and fourth Thursday of each month. You can call their helpline (1800 774 5935, from Mon to Fri, 3pm to 9.30pm) to find out more. Another way to reach them would be via email ([email protected]). You will need to make an appointment before going down and can do so through the Helpline. For more information: http://www.aware.org.sg/support-services/legal-services/ Personally, I think it is best to address this so that you each can move on to with your own lives. In the meantime, confide in a close friend whom you feel comfortable with to share your feelings and thoughts. It is important for you to have ample emotional support to help you stay strong for yourself, and for your children. You can also consider speaking to a professional if everything is too much to bear and you need an outlet to vent. For professional counselling service, you can consider Singapore Counselling Service: http://scc.sg/eng/index.php/counselling-services/ Take care!!

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You went through lots before you posted this question. Dear mummy wherever and whoever you are, you've been brave and please take good care. I hope you have supportive parents to comfort you. Try to be strong for your children though it's okay to feel weak at times. At this low point, you need and seek comfort. No fault of yours and we are humans afterall. It's okay to meet people and make new friends. People cope differently. However, before you fall into a relationship again, please make sure your heart has settled and that the man is not the one to whom you are seeking as replacement. This is to be honest to the relationship and to the both of you. You also need to be aware that your heart us ready for another person and not because you want or need. Your children are still young. Please think twice before going into a relationship and that the man is willing to accept your children as his. Hugs mummy.

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I think it's best that you approach your husband to start divorce proceedings. I know it might be awkward and really difficult to face your husband after all that's happened but it is something you have to do. Without the divorce, it seems like you're stuck in limbo - not sure where to go, what to do. Since your husband has clearly moved on, you should do so as well and the divorce is the way to initiate your liberation from this unhappy situation. It is for the best, for you and your children. Hang in there, be brave, stay strong and I pray all will run smoothly for you.

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Absolutely!!! All for it!! I sense that even while you were together, you must be feeling lonely... It's good that he and you haved moved out.. He has moved on with the woman he loved; now its your turn...Look for a new companion now, buy someone who is emotionally strong and is willing to take care of you and your children.. Remember we women always need a strong man by ourside. Be it within the wedlock or outside :) Cheers and do keep me posted of what you have decided to do!!

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Hey if he is cheating on you and separated. I will say just go for it.. ignore all the social stigma. You have a family to run and if having another man or a FBuddy makes you happy, just go for it. At the end of the day you need to make yourself happy so you can care for your kids and manage the household.

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Do you want to find another guy when you are leggaly in marriage? I don't think you have any difference with your man, lady. My opinion, you need friends or support group to carry on this storm. Finalize your divorce paper then move on, find your dream man. But never do it inside your marriage :)

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Your Husband separated from you when you were in the last trimester of your pregnancy? I am sorry you had to go through this. How are you feeling?

Do seek professional help ie SOS or MSF counselling service. Your children needs you to stay sane.

thank you mummies...i appreciate yr advice...i had been gging for couselling and

6 mths...feeling depresssed