My husband and I had not been living together for 4 months. i stay with my parents. My husband had been cheating on me since marriage. He had contacted and living with the same woman. He left me and my two daughters who is 18 months and newborn baby. Just need an opinion. Should I divorce him? Just to let you know he rent a condo and live with this woman. For 4 mths he never bother to ask about me and daughters.

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I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this. It is really never easy for us women. Especially if kids are involved. If you are seriously considering a divorce, you have to think of your support network cos u have a baby and a toddler. It is not going to be easy being a single mother. You got to be real strong and I really hope you have family by your side who supports your decision and is able to help you in your road ahead. I wish I can say your hubby may change and to give him a chance but I agree when people say once a cheater always a cheater. Think this through very carefully. I too have gone through a divorce and it's really not easy. Hugs frm a concerned mummy. :)

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ask family for support, n start saving some money for divorce proceedings. be prep it's going to be a long procedure. may take 2yrs to finalize. get evidence on his cheating, ask friends to follow him n take pics. talk to him with recordings. keep receipts of monthly expenses. divorce will b ugly. even if ur husband agrees initially be ensured that his lawyer will teach him to break his promises and turn nasty. but first and foremost, u need financial support fr ur family and caregiving help. if u can get that, the rest will b easier.

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Yea I know what you mean. Mine was over 3 years, not becos of cheating but becos he was abusive. Gave him many chances always thinking he will change hw will change but it went on for 3 years and things still remained the same until I decided enough is enough. I don't want my child to grow up in such a family. It was really tough but I'm glad I had support from my famiĺy to help me through so stay strong for your kids. That's the only way to make it through. A concerned mummy. :)

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Thank you u all for your care and concern. i know it is not easy. Im trying to be strong for my two kids. Sometimes i do tink for the sake of my kids. Gif him many chance...Still e same. Still gif chance again.For the kids. What i cant accept is that it is the same woman he had. He still meet her after our honeymoon and gif him chanceand he do it again for the two yrs marriage...My heart totally broken. mostly im trying to be strong for my kids

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A divorce will only be granted if you are married for 4 years or if you have Private Investigator to prove that he is having an affair. You should file for the divorce if you have decided to so that you can get the custody of your children easier if he decided to fight for them. You can approach Legal Aid if you are not working and cannot afford normal lawyer fees but subject to eligibility. https://www.mlaw.gov.sg/content/lab/en.html

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Reading this article, I can't help but think that your husband married you because you are pregnant but not out of love. Anyway that is not important, now you need to focus on bringing up your kid. That includes planning for finances and etc. Your first task now is to rally your family and friends. 2nd file for child support.

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If you will like to go through a divorce and have young children, the court will order for counselling session. You can attend it to decide if you really like to go through it. In my opinion, if there is no love or he no longer cared about your kids, it is better to leave than to continue suffering.

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No problem mummy. We mummies are all here to help each other out. I find this anonymous feature here very good. At least you can get some advice anonymously. That time when I was going through with my divorce I couldn't even ask for help on Facebook cos everyone would know! Lol.

I have yet to file for divorce cuz i just recently give birth. feeling pressure as he left me when im 6 mths pregnant and plus with my 18 mths toddler. actuali im waiting for his letter as he had another woman. But still yet to receive letter .

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I am sorry that you are going thru this. This is a hard call - have you both seen a marriage counsellor? You have a newborn, it's a time of change for you and your family. I would not do anything drastic at the moment.