My daughter has slept in a separate bed right from her birth. She is now six years old and insists on sleeping in our bed. I have been reading up on co-sleeping but not sure if the benefits still apply if you have not done co-sleeping with your child from the beginning. What do you suggest mums?

I believe that as children grow older, they should be sleeping in their own beds as parents need their private space to unwind and relax, which is not easy to do when there is a child in between. I would suggest that either parent lie in bed with her and tuck her in to sleep, so she feels secure. Once she is in deep sleep, return to your own bed. If your child has to sleep together in your big bed in order to feel secure, it also means that it is likelier that she will feel INSECURE without your presence, which is not something you would like as she reaches the school-going age. http://sg.theasianparent.com/co-sleeping-yes-or-no/

It's easy to neglect the relationship between the couple when all the focus is placed on the children, which is why many couples often feel lost and "no longer in love" after children have flown the coop. If you would still like to try co-sleeping and like having your child in bed with you... I suggest a very large bed. I've seen some parents who have 3 king sized mattresses across the floor so there's adequate space for everybody. Yes, co-sleeping does help you bond with your child even if it has not been done from the beginning, but be prepared to wake up with a foot in your face.

I agree with Cindy. Do what you think is best for your family. Yes parents should have private space but that's only if you want it. There are other places to have sex. Oops. Jokes aside, she won't be needing you for too long. When she grows older she will want her personal space and friends will be her priority. I say treasure the moment whilst it lasts.

We didn't plan to co-sleep either but eventually did it out of convenience and necessity as we were nursing then. I think it allows them to feel more secure that mummy and daddy are right beside them. Do what you feel works best for the family. Before you know it, she'll be asking to move into her own room...

Our children grow up too fast, do treasure the time when they are still 'sticky' to us. It is perfectly fine to co-sleep with kids occasionally, maybe you can set a rules, twice a month to sleepover if you still need some privacy between you and husband.

Despite what most experts say I still think cosleeping is fine. Coz they definitely want their own space when they get older

thanks